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When You Hit Rock Bottom…

There are many that we have that give us thoughts and advice on life. In some cases much can be learned from words. Some of those words and thoughts can be applied to relationships and marriage. Some are very helpful and others can easily be bypassed and considered foolish. One saying that I have heard quite often that does seem to hold some truth is “when you hit the bottom there is nowhere to go but up.” In some relationships it actually takes hitting rock bottom before you can begin to improve and grow together. It takes the worst to … Continue reading →

When is Divorce an Option?

In 10 Divorce Myths, Heather stated how she rarely reflects on divorce because this is, after all, the Marriage Blog. I don’t like to focus on the Big D either because I believe you get what you give. (Not so much that I’m going to get divorced just from talking about it, but I don’t want to attract thoughts of it and make it a focus in my life.) However, earlier today I wrote Did You Commit to Marriage Before You Even Were? In it I brought up how many of us have learned by example that divorce is okay. … Continue reading →

Did You Commit to Marriage Before You Even Were?

I did. I don’t remember exactly how young I was, but I knew early on I wanted to be married. I’m sure tales such as Cinderella had some impact on that notion, but they didn’t necessarily create the notion. It was there beforehand. Society also shaped some of my thoughts about marriage. Helped to define them, but definitely didn’t generate them. Good grief, I cringe thinking about what mixed-up concepts I’d have if I’d relied solely on my first impressions of marriage from society. Bacon See, there were a lot of mixed messages flying around about women’s roles in marriage … Continue reading →

Protecting Yourself During a Legal Separation

My last article focused on the aspects of a legal separation. Many couples think that they can just move apart and be legally separated. However without the proper papers filed, you are not protected. A legal separation is a must if you feel that the divorce or separation may get ugly or difficult. It can help give the two of you guidelines to live by so neither partner is taken advantage of during the separation. In the article, I also began noting some precautions that one should take when undergoing a legal separation. This article will offer more advice on … Continue reading →

What is a Legal Separation?

When things are not going so well in a marriage, partners often begin to think about the option of a divorce. However, some couples are not so bold or yet ready to call it quits. These couples may opt for a separation or trial period before asking for a divorce. Some states honor a couple a legal separation. The states of Delaware, Florida, Georgia, Mississippi, Pennsylvania, and Texas do not recognize a legal separation as of this time. Other states look at a legal separation as of a time period when you are not married nor are you divorced. When … Continue reading →

“My Husband Thinks I’m Fat” – A “Real” Housewives Confession

It’s a revelation every married woman fears: a husband who’s no longer physically attracted to her. So much so that he wants out of the marriage entirely. That’s what Jeana Keough, one of the stars of Bravo’s Real Housewives of Orange County, admitted to her friend Tammy on a recent episode. Her husband of 20 years, Matt, not only thought she was fat but was disgusted by her and it’s one of the reasons for their split. While they may have had a long marriage by today’s standards, it sure didn’t sound like it was happy. Worse, it sounded like … Continue reading →

When Your Kids go to the “Other House” for the Holidays

For the first couple years after my divorce–the holidays were definitely hard for me! I realize that there was really nothing unique or original about my situation, but that did not make it any less painful or difficult to adjust to. I agreed that I would have my kids on Christmas Eve and then they would spend Christmas Day with their father. That first long, lonely Christmas day was horrible! But, over the years, I have adjusted and have found new ways to celebrate the holidays, and keep my mood up all the while… Sharing our kids can be tough … Continue reading →

Taking Back Your “Maiden” Name

When I got divorced several years ago, I couldn’t decide what to do about the “last name” problem. While my divorce decree stated that I could take back my “maiden” name, I decided to keep the married last name while I was raising my kids since it seemed to make things easier. Plus, for most things, I had always used both of my names anyway. Now that my children are nearly grown and it doesn’t seem like such a big deal that our last names “match”—I think I am ready to start the process to drop that long-used “married name,” … Continue reading →

Do Men Treat Their Second Wives Better Than Their First?

I worked with a lady that once told me something that I had never really thought about until she mentioned it. Now it seems that I look into it much more carefully. She had been divorced and her previous husband was engaged to be married again. She was dating a man that had also been previously married. His wife had passed away from illness. One day she commented on how men always treat their second wife better than they did their first. Her current boyfriend was married to one of her friends. After her friend passed away the two of … Continue reading →

Men’s versus Women’s Brains: We Are Different!

Sick of trying to figure out why the man in your life is so different to you and your girlfriends? Well, wonder no more. Research into brain function between males and females provides more and more evidence for why males think and act so differently to females. Although the male brain is roughly 9% larger than the female variety, they both contain the same number of cells, it’s just that in the female brain they are more tightly packed. Bu there’s more. Women have over 10% more neurons located in the part of the brain that is responsible for language. … Continue reading →