Keeping score is one of the worst things any married couple can do. Feeling like you owe somebody gets old in a hurry as do constant reminders of past favors or “gifts.” We should not do things or buy things for our spouses in order to make them feel indebted to us. We should do them out of love. Swapping back rubs or agreeing to trade favors is one thing, but consistently doing things just to throw them back at the other person or to manipulate him or her into doing what you want, is not good form. For one … Continue reading →