Tag Archives: funerals

Is It Appropriate for an Ex to Attend Their Ex’s Funeral?

Yesterday I wrote about how my dad planned to attend my mom’s funeral. (Or, rather, I think the more appropriate term is memorial service since she wasn’t buried or otherwise interred anywhere after.) I had mentioned it to a neighbor and they expressed surprise. “Is that appropriate? I mean, they had divorced. Does he really have any right to go?” Same Reaction When Wayne’s mom showed up to his dad’s viewing I felt the same way. “Wow. She’s got some cojones.” I remember feeling both appalled and furious that she had the nerve to show her face. I mean, not … Continue reading →

My Dad Wants to Attend My Mom’s Funeral

This afternoon my sister is going to hold a memorial service for my mom at the church she used to attend. My dad has informed me he plans on going. Which is fine. I told him he could be my personal representative because I won’t be there. (Yes, sadly, the rifts that started between my sister and I when my mom first got sick have only gotten bigger. Now I’m not on speaking terms with her.) I was only joking about the personal representative thing, but my dad did sort of feel he needed an excuse. For a variety of … Continue reading →

What to do About Kids and Funerals?

One of the questions that come up again and again from parents is what to do about kids and funerals? Do we take them or get a sitter? What age is appropriate for funerals and does it matter how close the child was to the deceased? This can be a sticky and stressful subject for many parents and a tough situation to negotiate… Some parents think that babies are perfectly fine to take to funerals because they won’t be running around and they are too young to really understand what is going on. But, what if they get fussy, hungry, … Continue reading →