Tag Archives: giving in

Caving In

I consider myself to be a pretty stubborn person and over my many years of parenting I have learned how to be fairly detached and firm when I need to be. That said, I have also done my share of getting exhausted and caving in. When is it okay to give in to a child’s demand and what can a parent do to keep from caving in when it is best to stay firm? I do not think it is possible to ALWAYS be firm and to NEVER give in to a whining child. However, there are times when giving … Continue reading →

Parenting God’s Way

‘I want my children to be happy. You can’t deprive them of everything or they’ll go the other way and rebel.’ Is this what you think? Is it how you deal with your children? This comment came out of an column by Ruth Ostrow. The comment made by a parent of her child’s friend, was used as an excuse for providing an unhealthy food for her child. Ruth Ostrow went onto say that Neer Korn, researcher of social trends, found many parents ‘have a guilt complex.’ The result is they try and make up for it by providing treats like … Continue reading →

Giving In to Everything a Child Wants

Many parents think that if they give in to a child it is a good way of avoiding things like fits, temper tantrums and disagreements. The truth is, there is a big difference between coming up with solid and creative ways to avoid power struggles and spoiling a child by giving in to every little thing that he or she wants. I have met parents who were convinced that they did not “spoil” their child because they did not spend a lot of money or buy the child expensive gifts. At the same time, they were giving in whenever the … Continue reading →

When Should You Yield?

I can be as stubborn as the next guy. As a matter of fact, in my younger days, I could hold fast, hold a grudge, or out-last just about anyone. After two decades of parenting, however, I have learned more about “letting go” than I ever dreamed in those stubborn younger days. Figuring out when to stand firm and when to yield is the common lesson and condition of the average parent… I think there is a difference between giving in and letting children get away with something and deciding NOT to make a big deal out of choices and … Continue reading →