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Feeling Rejected–A Mother’s Perspective

Ah, rejection! Had someone told us when we started out as parents that we would have our hearts so broken and battered by these tiny little innocent creatures, do you think we would have believed them? What a cruel joke it is that we are told to embrace “attachment parenting,” to bond and devote ourselves to our children–all the while their job is to push, pull and run to get away and forge out on their own as independent people. How do we wrestle with all the various stages and versions of feeling rejected?! Recently, I was talking with an … Continue reading →

The Pain of Letting Go

I’ve decided that the primary task of motherhood is letting go. It starts with the physical pain of letting go of a tiny human being who has become part of our body for many months. This child has moved within us, been nourished from the vessels inside us, and has grown and developed as part of us. Despite this powerful physical connection, we must set this child free. This tiny son or daughter needs to become independent to survive. The first letting go is birth. It always involves pain. The recovery is difficult. Even the adopted child starts his life’s … Continue reading →