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More Lies Society Has Fed us about Marriage

I’m continuing the lies society has fed us about marriage. You can always change your spouse after you are married. If he or she is not exactly what you want before marriage you can always change them afterwards. No you can’t. So choose wisely before you commit. Know what you can cope with and what you can’t. If you set out to change your spouse, all you will end up with is frustration and disappointment. The only person you can change in a marriage relationship is you and even that’s debatable. There are some aspects of our personalities we can’t … Continue reading →

Marriage as God Designed It?

I’m a romantic. I believe in happily ever after. I believe in love that lasts ‘until death us do part,’ to quote the words of the marriage service. This is the sort of love and union God planned when He made woman as a helper and partner for man, Genesis 3:20-22. Adam recognized this fact in the way he responded to the woman God made, verse 23. God’s Word tells us; ‘For this cause a man shall leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave to his wife; and they shall become one flesh,’ Genesis 3:24. This verse, quoted … Continue reading →

The Older Couple at Church

When my mom was living with us, Wayne and I made it a point to take her to church on Sundays. She was Catholic, we’re not, but the Sunday after she died, we made a point of going to her church anyway. It was part of our own private memorial to her. We arrived a little early and took a seat in one of the back pews where we’d sit with my mom. I immediately started looking for them –the older couple Wayne had spotted the first Sunday we’d gone with my mom. “Aren’t they cute?” he’d leaned over and … Continue reading →

Definitely, Maybe (2008)

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Definitely, Maybe, for sure! What a charming, terrifically enchanting film from the makers of Notting Hill and Love Actually. Rarely is it the maker of the film that draws me in first, but Notting Hill and later, Love Actually were such outstanding movies that I picked this up without knowing the first thing about the plot, the actors or anything else about the movie and am I glad that I did! The Story There is so much to say about this movie that I really don’t know where to start, so let me just hit some highlights. Ryan Reynolds plays … Continue reading →

What Would Wake You Up to What’s Important?

Similar to what happened with a vision of a rollover I had semi-sort of involving Wayne, and the pain in my foot after Wayne’s surfboard accident, today I had another psychic connection moment. But this one snapped me out of a funk I’ve been in and made me realize what’s important. Yet Another Dream As you might have surmised if you’re a regular reader, I’m big into dreams. (If you’re not, or if you just want to reacquaint yourself with what I’m talking about, refer to articles like The Dream: How I Knew Wayne Was the One and Do You … Continue reading →

Marriage Types: Covenant

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Many years ago there was only one type of marriage. It was the traditional husband and wife marriage, which began with a wedding and ended with happily ever after (or so we thought). We now know that all marriages and couples are not designed this way. There are many different people in this world and many different types of relationships. Therefore, there are also different types of marriages. In my next couple of articles I will explore some traditional and some nontraditional couples and their marriages. For some couples marriage simply just is not enough. They want a commitment even … Continue reading →

Marriage Rating Scale – How Do You Score?

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I had to laugh, I was reading an article where psychologists were discussing a test used back in 1939 that assessed the ‘performance’ of a wife. Depending on the answers, she was awarded points or lost points. Reading the ‘wife’s chart’ is pretty entertaining from the modern perspective, because I don’t think we’ve changed as much as a lot of people would like to think we’ve changed. Demerits On the demerits list, give yourself a point for each of these that is true unless otherwise noted. Slow in coming to bed — delays until husband is almost asleep Doesn’t like … Continue reading →

Raising Great Kids, and Having a Great Marriage

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If you are married and are a parent, you probably have heard the old saying, “In order to be a good father, you must be a good husband first.” I still believe that’s true after 20 years of marriage—if anything, even more so after this year. It’s been a tough year, trying to take care of a child with special needs, trying to raise 2 young girls, 2 teenagers, and having my wife work full-time while I stay home and try to keep the family together. Add on top of that, money problems, lack of child care, and a wife … Continue reading →

Public Displays of Affection: How Much is Too Much?

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Recently I began thinking about a term that I heard a lot in high school. That term was PDA. At school PDA referred to public display of affection. Teachers and coaches sometimes used this term to inform students that they were getting too cozy with their girlfriend or boyfriend. Most teen couples like to touch. They are embarrassed or ashamed to hold hands and kiss in public places. As we mature and grow older this often changes. Some couples are more affectionate than others. They feel that they display their love for one another by holding hands and touching. Other … Continue reading →

How Do You Feel about Valentine’s Day?

Happy Valentine’s Day!! That’s right today is the big day. Many people have anticipated this day for several weeks now. Others have greatly dreaded it. And some feel very indifferent about it. Some cannot wait until it passes while others simply ignore it altogether. Many conversations, commercials, and businesses have lately been directed toward Valentine’s Day. Yesterday, I overheard a few ladies talking about how they do not celebrate Valentine’s Day. They commented on how they feel that the holiday is silly and it is a waste to spend the money on roses and candy and balloons. The ladies I … Continue reading →