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Don’t Expect Perfection

Don’t expect perfection- it sounds obvious since none of us are perfect people. We all have our faults and personality traits and things we could and should change. If we’re honest, we know we’re not perfect, but how often do we expect perfection from our spouse? To take an example. How often do they offer to do a job and we expect them to do it perfectly – which of course means exactly the way we would do it. More often that not, that won’t turn out to be the reality. Think about this example. Suppose your spouse volunteered to … Continue reading →

Too Agreeable in a Marriage?

Can you be too agreeable in a marriage? I’m inclined to think you can and it sets up a recipe for boredom. Yes, it’s great to be in sync with your spouse and agree on most things or even some things. It’s especially important to be in agreement on the major issues, like raising children, discipline, core values, beliefs, family issues, finances, etc. It makes for a harmonious marriage. So does having common interests. But it’s not helpful to agree on every opinion and every interest. The person, who never has an opinion or makes a decision of their own, … Continue reading →

Picking up the Slack

Marriage is about working together and being there for each other. While it might be good to set up some guidelines initially about how your marriage will work and who will do what jobs, sometimes these guidelines should be only that – guidelines. At times they many need updating or changing as circumstances change. It may mean for a time one person is left carrying more of the load. This can happen when your spouse is sick or injured, as when I broke my arm, Mick was left to pick up a lot of the slack and take on jobs … Continue reading →