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Marriage Complaints: How to Handle Them

During the first couple of years of marriage, you and your spouse will begin to get a feel for the idiosyncrasies you both possess. Remember, both spouses come from different backgrounds and family cultures. These differences are expressed through differing habits and expectations. These differences in expectations can generate friction between even the most loving of couples, as you both have to learn to adjust to them. The following tips are designed to help you and your spouse handle marriage complaints. Not all complaints are based on idiosyncrasies, but a good many of them can be. For example, I like … Continue reading →

10 Ways to Make Your Communication More Effective

This is a checklist that every married couple should keep taped to their refrigerator or their computer or their bathroom mirror – wherever they may see it every single day. If you know someone who is going to be married, include it in a note or a card to them. I try to look at this list as often as I can – because it helps and it serves as a healthy reminder to make better choices and to be more effective when I communicate with my spouse. Don’t Be Judgmental – You need to avoid words and phrases that … Continue reading →

He Said, She Said

How the argument you have is not the one you give. It can be frustrating when you have a disagreement with your spouse and what you say is not what you mean. Why do we do that? I know a number of married couples that experience the same set of frustrations when they argue. It’s extremely typical for wives to commiserate over their husbands who never understand them and for husbands to represent their wives as the boss who nags. Sadly, I have to confess that part of the reason it’s so typical is because that’s what happens. What frustrates … Continue reading →