Tag Archives: intimacy

Intimacy Impacted by Chores?

So what’s the secret to strong intimacy in a marriage?  Apparently it’s when a couple fulfills the more traditional roles of chores. Now keep in mind that although the results of this study were recently made known, it was conducted back in 1992.  So there is the strong possibility that today’s results would be different. The study showed that even when men took on some of the chores traditionally taken care of by females (such as laundry, cleaning, cooking), it was good for the marriage but it didn’t really impact intimacy.  However, things get better when men stick to the … Continue reading →

Do You Give Expecting Something in Return?

I found out from watching “The View” this week that GQ magazine came out with an article about a couple who bargain for sex. He does certain chores in exchange for sex. There are a couple of ways to look at this. If you really want to find something good about it, I guess you can understand how it meets each other’s needs. She needs help around the house and he needs…well, we know the answer to that one. But why does it have to be a bargaining tool? Why can’t couples just meet each other’s needs without it being … Continue reading →

Virginity Pledges and Marriage

Do you believe abstinence before marriage? No matter what your opinion in this area is, you might find a recent study about virginity pledges and teens. Virginity pledges are gaining popularity, especially, although not limited to, church youth groups. The object of a virginity pledge is to get young people to agree not to have sexual activity outside of marriage. Some people believe that these pledges cut down on the likelihood that teens will engage in sexual activity that might result in unexpected pregnancy or sexually transmitted diseases. But a recent study sheds some light on the effectiveness of these … Continue reading →

Doing Something Novel Can Boost Your Sex Life

Having intimacy in a marriage is about more than just sex. It is being able to be with someone in a way that you can’t with anyone else in the world. It is knowing things about that person that no one else knows and sharing things that no one else shares. With intimacy and living together comes a deep knowledge of your spouse. While this is generally a good thing, it can sometimes have a downside when it comes to your sex life. As any married person knows, there are things that you learn about your spouse that, well, are … Continue reading →

Who Has Time for Lingerie?

Yesterday I got a Frederick’s of Hollywood spring preview catalog in the mail. It reminded me of an article Lyn once wrote. (See: Do You Still Wear Lingerie?) I’ve owned a few pieces of lingerie in my lifetime. Some I bought myself before we were married, some I got as wedding presents, and I even picked up a couple pieces since we’ve been married. But I never wear them. My trouble has always been laziness. Seems like a lot of trouble to get into some sexy getup only to, as Lyn pointed out in one of her comments on her … Continue reading →

Sex Drive After Marriage

Many men believe the misconception that after the honeymoon all love making is over. They believe that a woman’s sex drive plunges after a couple of years of marriage. The plunge, I believe, has nothing to do with the marriage license. Before marriage, women have fewer responsibilities. They take care of themselves and have no other bodies that need to be cleaned-up or fed. After a few years of marriage, babies begin to come into the picture. Women then have an added responsibility, added emotional stress, and fewer hours of sleep. Their bodies change in ways they had never imagined … Continue reading →

Pleasure Your Mate Month: Come to Your Senses

The month of September marks a lot of strange holidays and events, among them Pleasure Your Mate Month. Have you stopped to think about pleasuring your mate recently? What about the level of intimacy in your marriage or how to make your marriage sexier? Sex and marriage is a tricky –sometimes touchy (no pun intended)—- topic, but it’s important to keep a marriage sensual. But it’s also hard. Kids, work, schedules, deadlines, chores…they all conspire to suck the sexy out of marriage. There isn’t always enough time in the day, or energy at the end of one, to tend to … Continue reading →

Mix It Up Monday – How to Detonate and Sabotage Your Relationship

You may think this is an odd topic to cover here, but it’s important to recognize the things you may say or do that could sabotage your relationship and your marriage. Too often, we got caught up in our own personal dramas and trials and we forget how we want to and should treat other people, especially our spouses. So here are some guaranteed ways your behavior can affect your relationships and your marriage in a negative fashion: Abandoning the use of common courtesy with your spouse and treating the bank teller better than you would your spouse — it’s … Continue reading →

Loving & Being Loved

Do you have trouble with intimacy? Is it hard for you to believe that someone can love you deeply? Don’t be hard on yourself; you are not alone. I know a lot of married couples and I know any number of wives and husbands who are not certain about how much they are loved. You may wonder how this is possible? I’ll tell you how. We Need Intimacy As a species, we need intimacy. We need it as much as we need air. We need sustenance, we need shelter and we need intimacy. The root behind any relationship, good, bad … Continue reading →

Do You Feel Sexy?

Sometimes, the issue is not one of lack of attraction for our spouses. Sometimes, it’s all about not feeling very attractive ourselves. This may stem from physical issues regarding personal appearance, health, weight gain, rapid weight loss, or an assortment of other concerns, but sometimes it can also be emotional. If you don’t feel good about yourself as a person, or don’t particularly like the man or woman inside, you’re not likely to feel as if you’re attractive to others. On the other hand, it may not be self-image, but the image you feel the other person sees. If your … Continue reading →