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Sex in the Muslim Marriage

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Allah created men and women as two halves of a whole, made complete through marriage. The Koran says, “And among His Signs is this, that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that you may dwell in tranquility with them, and He has put love and mercy between your (hearts): verily in that are Signs for those who reflect.” (Ar-Rum 30:21) Marriage should provide physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual fulfillment. Although it is rarely spoken of, lovemaking is an important part of a Muslim marriage. Sex is made legal through marriage; sex outside of marriage, whether premarital or extramarital, … Continue reading →

Sleeping Together or Apart?

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Interesting topic of discussion, I read an article about married couples spending only 1/3 of their lives sleeping together. Sleeping apart may indicate lower marital satisfaction, but it can also indicate just wanting to get a good night’s sleep. In the first few years of a relationship, couples are willing to sacrifice comfort for intimacy and after five to six years, the couple is more interested in a good night’s sleep than they are in intimacy. This can be a problem. According to the National Sleep Foundation, more than one in ten married Americans sleep alone. Of those with less … Continue reading →

Declare Your Devotion

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I have been talking about intimacy a great deal and how communication and constant checks and rechecks are a part of maintaining your intimacy with your spouse. Another facet of maintaining intimacy is declaring your devotion. Over and over and over again. For example, I kept track one day out of sheer curiosity – my daughter said “I love you” to me 28 times in one day. That’s more than twice per hour when you consider she’s only awake for about 12 hours of the day. She declares her love on a regular and consistent basis. I understand her need … Continue reading →

Share Thoughts & Feelings

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When you talk about intimacy in marriage, a great many people automatically assume the word intimacy with sexual activity. While sexual contact is a part or a form of intimacy it is not the sole proprietor of the intimacy of marriage. In fact, the sexual expression of love and devotion is but a single facet of a marriage’s intimacy. If you look at marriage as a journey, where you are pilot and co-pilot, navigator and passenger, then you will begin to see that unless you maintain constant communication there will be problems in your flight plan. It’s important that you … Continue reading →

Is Sex Safe During Pregnancy?

Many couples find themselves wondering if it’s safe to continue having intercourse during pregnancy. In a healthy pregnancy, sex is generally safe. You should check with your health care provider to be sure you are low risk. There are certain higher risk situations in which you may be instructed to abstain from intercourse. Even if your doctor tells you it’s safe to be intimate, you may not always be in the mood. Desire often changes, depending on the stage of your pregnancy and your individual symptoms. Each woman is different. Some can’t get enough, while others can’t be bothered. Your … Continue reading →

Will Intimacy During Pregnancy Cause Miscarriage?

There was a time when women were told that intimacy during pregnancy would cause miscarriages. Now they are told that intimacy is fine and it will cause no problems with the pregnancy. Whom are you to believe? Intimacy during pregnancy is usually okay. Unless you have had problematic previous births such as, miscarriages, suffering from vaginal bleeding, cervix or placenta irregularities, intimacy is fine. During your first trimester, your interest in sex may wane due to nausea and exhaustion. During your second trimester increased blood flow throughout your body may increase your desire for intimacy but it will most likely … Continue reading →

Who Was That Masked Man?

The following entry contains some suggestive material, please do not be offended. It is offered as a way to help develop a deeper intimacy with your spouse. Do you have fantasies? We all do. Sometimes it can be difficult to share fantasies out loud. Surprisingly, it can be hard to share our intimate fantasies with our spouses. Our spouse may find it difficult to express their fantasies with us. Even in the most open relationships where communication is strong, it can be hard for a husband and wife to discuss fantasies they may have for fear of offending the other. … Continue reading →

Spring Fling

I have a confession to make. I want to have an affair. I want to sneak off for hours at a time. I want weekend getaways. I want hidden love notes in secret pockets. I want to have a fling. Oh, don’t look so shocked! The man I want to have an affair with is married too. Yes, you got it – he’s my husband. I want to have an affair with the man I married. I want to have that spontaneity again. I want to have those stolen moments in the afternoon. I want to have those phone calls … Continue reading →

Dancing with the Spouses!

I usually despise reality television. Even shows like The Biggest Loser that help achieve their goals. My distaste is based solely on the voyeuristic aspects of reality television. Frankly, it’s really a personal thing and I understand the appeal for others. But there is one reality show that I almost wish I could write and produce and air – for no other reason than I would love to drag my husband into it. Since I likely won’t be getting producer credits anytime soon, I present to you my reality show. I’m going to call it Dancing with the Spouses! . … Continue reading →