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Dreams about People Other Than Your Mate

Some shows on television often are good indicators of the way that people live and react with one another. Screenwriters spend much time observing how people react in certain situations. Tthey almost gives us a chance to stand on the outside and look in. Once again I am writing in memory of a favorite episode of one of the all time shows that depicts the comical relationship between a husband and a wife, Home Improvement. During the particular episode that I remember, Al’s girlfriend has a dream about Tim. In the dream he is seen as a type of night … Continue reading →

Why Kids Can be Jealous but the Date Can’t

Evaluating potential dates and partners gets even tougher when one is a single parent. Perhaps that is why we spend a fair amount of time as single parents talking about dating—the hows, whys, and other tips that only come from experience. One thing that does occur is that our expectations raise—we really need to choose dates and potential partners from those adults who are total grown-ups. It may seem unfair that our expectations have to be so high and it may definitely cause some contention when the other person realizes that we have different expectations for our children than we … Continue reading →

Running into an Ex

A while back during the Garth Brooks days of country music (which as you know he is now returning to it) there was a song “Unanswered Prayers.” In this song he referred to praying that a relationship would last. However, the prayer, as he thought, was not effective and he and the girl split. Later, in the song, he was married and ran into the old flame in which he had prayed for a lasting relationship. Thinking about his wife and family he then realized that his prayers did come true and that the first relationship was not meant to … Continue reading →

When Our Kids Feel Jealous or Hate Our Jobs

While the “job jealousy” issue is not the private domain of single parent families, I have found in my experience that many of us single parents do have to contend with our children seeing our work or jobs as being in direct opposition to them. After all, many of our children learn quite young that what “takes us away” from them and home is our work. As single parents, how can we foster an understanding, appreciation, or at least a “truce” with our children when it comes to our jobs? When I first became a single parent and my children … Continue reading →

Jealousy and the Single Parent

Oh jealousy…that little green monster that can do so much damage! As a single parent, we might have more than our fair share of opportunities to wrestle with jealousy—and when we give into jealousy, it seldom turns out well! We might be jealous of our ex, or our child’s other parent; we might feel jealous of friends or family members who seem to have it better than us; an ex’s new partner; a coworker or the neighbor across the street. There are ample ordinary life situations that might be exacerbated by the fact that we have been through the crisis … Continue reading →

Do You Tell Your Husband When Another Man Hits on You?

Every now and then when we are out on a night with the girls, at work, or even simply out shopping, and we run into someone who finds us attractive. Whether it is the absence of a ring, the hint that you may be available, or just the lack of caring if we are single or not, we get hit on. Another man flirts with us or makes a comment that applies that he is interested in us. How do you handle it? How many of you rush home with the guilt of being looked at by another man and … Continue reading →

Battling Demons: The Green-Eyed Monster

The jealous are troublesome to others, but a torment to themselves. ~-William Penn-~ Are you a jealous person? I am. Or used to be more frequently than I am now. For the last ten years or so I’ve been in a recovery program of sorts. Not one associated with any particular group. Just one devised by applying wisdom I’ve stumbled across in regards to my problem. Because jealousy is a problem. Or can be, if left unchecked. Once upon a time, back when Wayne and I were first dating, I didn’t check my jealousy very much at all. I let … Continue reading →

Have Your Even Felt Jealous of Your Child’s Other Parent?

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It’s not that I’m jealous of Tyler’s relationship with his father. It’s, well, sometimes I wish he wasn’t so all fired up when he goes to stay with him. No matter how much I complain about not having “me” time the truth is when my baby is gone, I’m lonely, I miss him terribly and I can’t wait until we are reunited. If you are reading this blog on Saturday, I am not in Mobile but in New Orleans. I am finally nearing the stage where Tyler and I will be returning home. When I return to Mobile, Tyler will … Continue reading →

Duck and Goose – Tad Hills

One day, Duck and Goose came upon a big round, white object with spots all over it in the middle of a field. They’d never seen anything like it before, and they both immediately assumed it was an egg. And they both wanted it. An argument immediately ensued, with much yelling, and then they felt guilty, because if they woke up the baby inside, that would be very sad. But they had to find a way to decide who the egg should belong to. They both thought they should build an enclosure to keep the other out. The one thing … Continue reading →

Control Issues & Jealousy

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What is a control issue and what does it have to do with marriage? Control issues usually take place in a marriage when one partner or the other or both are feeling jealous, threatened, insecure or possessive. Those negative emotions can spawn a need to control what is happening in their life, even when they have no ability to apply control or to influence the outcome. It can be even worse for their partner as they try to control them as well. Loss of Control Control issues and jealousy do not always go hand in hand, but if you’ve ever … Continue reading →