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Intimacy and Desire in Marriage

Today I have something a bit different for the marriage blog. I have a book review Intimacy and Desire Awaken the Passion in Your Relationship by Dr David Schnarch Paperback $35.00 This book raises several interesting and, I dare to suggest, controversial issues. One of them is that lack of sexual desire doesn’t necessarily mean there is a problem in the marriage. This is certainly different to a lot of the popular view of the day and the impression we get from current movies and TV shows, which suggest that if you’re not have sex like rabbits there’s something drastically … Continue reading →

Two Interesting Statistics about Marriage

Haven’t all of us at times wished we could go back in time and do things over, and do them better or differently? Haven’t we all wished we could eliminate he mistakes and improve our lives? If you had it all to do over again would you marry the same person? According to Time magazine that question was asked in a survey that extended over 15 countries. The survey found that 68 percent of people surveyed said if they could do it all again, they would marry the same person. Would you be one of those like that 68 percent? … Continue reading →

Can You Die of a Broken Heart?

Can you die of a broken heart? It appears you can. Our local paper ran a story about Vera Guthrie. Vera had been married to Tom for over 65 years. He died six months ago. According to family members she was broken hearted after her beloved husband died. And in fact, she died ‘when her aorta split.’ Contrast this lasting marriage, where she was broken hearted without her long term husband, with one I heard about recently. After costing over the parents of the supposed happy couple $30,000 for the wedding, the marriage lasted a total of six months. Wouldn’t … Continue reading →

How do You and Your Spouse Rate?

Why men want sex and women need love is the title of a new book out. I admit I haven’t read the book but I couldn’t help wondering if that was a gross over simplification. The book is written by a successful Australian couple. On the site there is an about us link. But about as us tells you nothing about them except what they have achieved in the publishing business and how many best selling books they have and how successful they are in business. It tells you nothing about how long they have been married or what their … Continue reading →

Secret of a Lasting Marriage

Want to know the secret of a lasting marriage? I’m guessing you do if you’re here. Sydney and Betty Cooper, an Australian couple who celebrated their 60th wedding anniversary recently had differing views about how to achieve this milestone. Sydney Cooper said, ‘the secret was more on Betty’s part than mine.’ But then he went on to add these wise words, ‘talk things over before making decisions, try a little tenderness and work as a team.’ The thing that struck Betty initially, from the time she first met Sydney, was his ‘thoughtfulness,’ and ‘courtesy. Thoughtfulness and courtesy carry over into … Continue reading →

The 60-40 Rule

Many experts in the field of marriage advice will tell you that a successful marriage is 50/50. I beg to disagree. In fact, I think the 60/40 rule is really the secret. What is the 60/40 rule? That is where one person gives 60 percent and expects only 40 percent back. Now before you start telling me that this is completely unfair and why should one partner in the marriage only get 40 percent, let me explain. For the 60/40 rule to work, BOTH partners have to follow the same rule of giving 60 percent and accepting or taking or … Continue reading →

Today’s “Why I Got Married, Why I Stayed Single” Series

I caught an interesting segment on Today this morning. They’re examining why people get married or decide to stay single. This morning they started with why people get married. Why Get Married? I’ve often wondered this. I know why little girls get married. Part of it has to do with the Cinderella effect. Marriage is glamorized early on in a little girl’s life. But why do men marry? This has never made sense to me. Maybe it’s because of something Tristi pointed out in a comment on another blog: how the media belittles men. Tristi said she’s noticed it recently … Continue reading →

Marriage: The Grandfather Clause

My grandfather will be 94 years old next month. He is a kind, wonderful, interesting man with much knowledge to share and I always enjoy talking to him. Actually, I get more out of listening to him. He offers wisdom, insight, and advice on myriad topics, and it’s always good, solid, information, because it’s generally something he’s learned, observed, or experienced in his many years. His advice on marriage is something that will always stick with me. It is in fact good advice in regard to any personal relationship. Aside from the obvious –love- there is another trait that is … Continue reading →