When They Say They Want to Live with the Other Parent

If you have been a single parent for any length of time, eventually you will likely hear your child express that he or she would be much happier if only he could “go live at mom or dad’s house!” For some kids this is an idle threat—used in a moment of frustration or anger; but for others they really do feel an urge and a pull to go live at the other house. As the parent, you may have mixed feelings and wonder what is best, right, and even what is possible? There is no simple reason why or answer … Continue reading

“Living” and “Visiting”

When I was first divorced, my kids definitely spent more time with me than they did with their father. The 50/50 parenting time split that was written into our divorce agreement was not what actually came to pass and I admit that I carried a great deal of resentment around it–especially since I never got a penny of child support or alimony or anything like that. It took a while for me to realize that my anger resentment was not only NOT helping the situation, it was actually making things worse for both myself and my children. For some reason, … Continue reading