Tag Archives: love

Who’s the Boss?

Who is the boss in your marriage? Ideally, you might think no-one should be the boss in a marriage and that marriage is a partnership. But sometimes no matter how much we talk things through and try and work them out, we may find we have different ideas. Then what? When a decision needs to be made and you cannot agree, then someone has to end up making a decision. In the biblical view of marriage the husband is the head of the household and the wife is to submit to him. This does not mean that a husband has … Continue reading →

Your Most Critical Relationship

The problem with marriage is that while it is the most critical relationship, the strongest and yet most fragile (because of the devastation it can cause when it ends), it is also the relationship that we tend to give lesser amounts of attention. Part of the joy of marriage is having someone who can love you as you are, to whom you don’t have to prove yourself, to whom you can use as a shelter. To love and be loved has got to be one of the greatest things to aspire to in life. But just think about some of … Continue reading →

Essentials for Happy Lasting Marriage

Here are my first five essentials for a happy lasting marriage. Last night as Mick and I played a game of Settlers of Catan, I was thinking about our marriage and thinking about how far we’ve come over our more than 40 years of marriage from that young couple that started out together. So here are a few of my essentials. 1. Love Love is the obvious starting point. But not the wishy washy excuse for love we see on movie and TV screens. And not just lust or chemical attraction which also gets portrayed often but a real concern … Continue reading →

How to Catch Your Spouse

There are numerous reality shows out there these days. One of them is called 
“Cheaters.” The premise is that an entire camera crew and a host will help you catch your spouse right in the act of cheating. Ugh. I don’t even want to know how this is called entertainment. But, catching your spouse can be good for your marriage. The kind of catching I am talking about doesn’t involve camera crews or even cheating. Did I lose your interest? I hope not, because the kind of catching I mean will make you a lot happier. It is catching your … Continue reading →

Learn from Dogs

Those of us who are married can learn a lot from dogs. Dog owners know how faithful loyal and loving these four footed friends can be. Their love and loyalty does not depend on what we do for them. They will love us regardless and not hesitate to show it. In the words of John Grogan from Marley and Me ‘A dog doesn’t care ifyou’re rich or poor, smart or dumb. Give him your heart and he’ll give you his. How many people can you say that about/? How many people make you feel special, extraordinary?’ Yet shouldn’t that be … Continue reading →

Don’t Hate the Joneses

Do you know the Joneses, or the Smiths or Insert Family Name here? They are that family or that couple that always seems so perfect. The one where the wife is always tan and polished, the husband is handsome and attentive and the children are always winning all of the awards in school or sports. But beware of the Joneses. They could just ruin your marriage, even if they aren’t aware of it themselves. Sometimes when we look at other couples, a little bit of envy starts to sneak in. We may wonder why it is that they are the … Continue reading →

Love Each Other As If Every Day Is The Only Day.

‘Love each other as if every day is the only day.’ These words came out of the novel True Blue which I read recently. As you’ve probably gathered by now, I’m huge reader and Luanne Rice is a favorite author since I discovered her last year. As I read or watch TV or movies, I tend to have one eye on things I things I can use for blogs. This was one of those comments. But why love each other as is if every day is the only day? One of the reasons is that we don’t know what tomorrow … Continue reading →

When You Don’t Love Your Husband

A friend of mine recently confessed to me that she just doesn’t love her husband. She is considering leaving him, although she is unsure of the decision since this man is a wonderful husband and father. He has always been loyal, faithful, kind, and a good friend. What do you think she should do? The first question I had for her was whether or not she ever loved her husband. Many people feel as through the first flush of love and romance is gone, especially after kids. Most couples go on to develop a longer-lasting deeper love and fall in … Continue reading →

Marriage and Household Roles

Having “assigned roles” in the household can make for fewer arguments in a marriage. Knowing exactly who is responsible for what can help the tasks get done and cut down on arguments. Here is how. Assigning roles In my marriage, we seem to have naturally fallen into responsibilities, although some things are done as a team, and other things seem to be done by whomever gets inspired (or tired) when a task is left undone. Most of the time, we fall into the typical gender roles that you might have expected from the 1950s. Part of the reason for this … Continue reading →

Two Imperfect People

As spiritual people, we know that we are not perfect. We are merely human and make many mistakes along the way in our lives. Why then, do we tend to assume that our marriages have to be perfect? When you are young and in love you tend to believe that a happy marriage means that the couple spends hours staring into each other’s eyes, doing fun things together and always agreeing. This is probably because during courtship or dating, a couple tends to spend hours staring into each other’s eyes, doing fun things together and always agreeing. Call it the … Continue reading →