Tag Archives: love

Attack the Issue, Not Each Other

One of the things that I am working on within myself is to avoid attacking my spouse when there is an issue at hand. Instead, I try to focus on attacking the issue with him, instead. This helps keep the personal attacks and nagging each other away. Attacking the issue instead of each other can come up in many forms. For example, rather than attack my spouse for not getting a certain home repair done, I simply ask “What can I do to get this completed?” When he forgets to shoo our old cat down to the basement and close … Continue reading →

Does Absence Make the Heart Grow Fonder?

There is a line in a song by Barenaked Ladies that says “Absence makes the heart grow fungus.” It is a funny take on the famous saying about how being apart makes you desire your partner even more than you might normally do. But the other side of this is implied in that line of the song. If you are emotionally absent, then the relationship can moulder and die. So, what are some of the ways that absence might make the heart grow fonder? Forget the annoyances All of those little things that build up and seem so annoying at … Continue reading →

Three Positive Stories

One of the things that impressed me the most about a friend of mine when I first began to know her is that she never had anything bad to say about her husband. While other wives got together at play groups and complained, she never once criticized her spouse in order to relate or bond with everyone else. it impressed me so much that I knew I wanted to be her friend. So often we complain about our spouse in an effort to gain some sympathy, perhaps to seek advice or to relate to someone else. Women especially tend to … Continue reading →

Selfishness and Dishonesty Taken to the Extreme

I was horrified when I read this article about a man who infected the woman he claimed to love, and who he later married, with HIV. According to reports , he did not tell her he had the virus when the couple first ‘began a sexual relationship in 1996.’ Instead he knowingly and willingly passed the disease on to the woman he supposedly loved without telling her. By the time she found out, it was too late. This has to be the height of selfishness on this man’s part. Obviously Judge Thomas Wodak thought so too, He said ‘the fact … Continue reading →

Reasons to Give Your Spouse a Second Chance

Whether it is a matter of sexual infidelity or just forgetting your birthday, here are some reasons why you should just let it go and give your spouse a second chance. Good basic character If you spouse is basically a decent person with a good character then it usually means that a second chance would be rewarded. Has your spouse showed you time and time again that he or she has a commitment to you and the relationship? Did you trust your spouse before the current issue? Does your spouse generally care about others and usually does the right thing? … Continue reading →

What Turns You on?

While there are many things about my husband that I find attractive, there is one thing he does that is sure to get me in the mood. Don’t worry, this will be a G-rated post. I wouldn’t reveal that much about my intimate life anyway. As it is, my female friends who read this blog will probably tease me to no end just for what I am about to reveal. Ok, whew. The things that really gets me humming is when my husband dresses up in a suit. There is just something about seeing him looking sharp and professional that … Continue reading →

Should You Avoid Divorce?

There are plenty of articles out there concerning the art of avoiding divorce, as if there were some magic formula that you could apply to guarantee that your marriage will not fail. I think we all eagerly read those bits of advice as a way of making sure that our marriages are on track. Or maybe we are struggling within our marriage and are looking for the secrets of avoiding divorce. Well, let me through my two cents in here, although it might not be too popular. There are some times when divorce can’t or shouldn’t be avoided. Some people … Continue reading →

Do You Love Your Spouse? Too Bad!

One of my favorite lines in a movie comes near the end of the movie Moonstruck. After several interesting adventures, the main character, played by share, is given a proposal of marriage as the family is seated around the breakfast table. Her mother turns to her after the proposal: Rose: “Do you love him, Loretta?” 
Loretta: “Ma, I love him awful.”
Rose: “Oh, God, that’s too bad.” While this is a funny moment (the fiancee is clearly a good guy, although complete with his own quirks), it is obvious that the mom is actually happy for her daughter, even though she, … Continue reading →

Doing Something Novel Can Boost Your Sex Life

Having intimacy in a marriage is about more than just sex. It is being able to be with someone in a way that you can’t with anyone else in the world. It is knowing things about that person that no one else knows and sharing things that no one else shares. With intimacy and living together comes a deep knowledge of your spouse. While this is generally a good thing, it can sometimes have a downside when it comes to your sex life. As any married person knows, there are things that you learn about your spouse that, well, are … Continue reading →

Family Relationships and Attitude

Extended family is always going to be part of your married life. Even if you are no longer in contacted with your extended family, they will always be there in the form of influence over you and your spouse. These are the people that helped form your young lives, and their dynamics will definitely mold your beliefs. One of these beliefs is an attitude toward family and the roles that the in-laws take. When you became a daughter-in-law or son-in-law where you immediately part of the family and treated as a natural child? Or, are you family but more at … Continue reading →