“I Don’t Like My Skin”

“I don’t like my skin. I want your skin.” Uh-oh. This is coming from my four-year-old daughter. On the one hand, I’m not surprised because I know that children often want to look like their parents. I know that at the preschool age kids become aware of differences. I know that my skin color is more similar to the “majority” of Americans’ skin color (although “white” won’t be a majority in another 20 or 30 years, demographers believe). On the other hand, I am surprised because we have always told the girls how beautiful their skin is. We’ve never shied … Continue reading

Stumped at School

Okay, I admit it—although I agree that it’s best to talk about issues rather than stick your head in the sand, it’s awfully hard to put that into practice with my own kids! I’ve heard lots of people say that our kids hear remarks about race and/or adoption that they don’t tell us about—but of course, my daughter and I are so close that she would naturally tell me right away, right? I feared that if we did a whole big presentation on adoption at the beginning of the school year—as some experts advise–we’d make it into a bigger deal … Continue reading

Lower Health Care Costs with Exercise

My husband just got taken on full time at the place he is working. I am thrilled, because after three years as contractors this means we get to have full on health insurance again and no more hospital bills ringing in the $20,000 range (and no, I’m not kidding, that’s what it cost us for his emergency appendectomy last year). We have been very fortunate that we haven’t had excessive health care costs over the last few years, with small exceptions, because we didn’t have insurance. In January, we applied for and received an independent form of health insurance that … Continue reading