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“When Good People Have Affairs”

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Oh wow! Is this ever a new one in the books of marriage advice? Just recently author, Mira Kirshenbaum publishes what just may be one of the most controversial marriage books ever! Kirshenbaum is using her over 30 years of experience as a marriage therapist to conclude that indeed an affair may be just what a marriage needs! Yes you read it right! The title of her book, “When Good People Have Affairs” actually points out positive aspects that affairs can have on a marriage. While we all know that some marriages can indeed survive an affair and become stronger … Continue reading →

Enrichment Tip: Identify and Accept His Faults

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My latest series of articles has focused on tips that women can carry out to help enhance their relationship with their husbands. In the first article I discussed the importance of taking the guess work out your needs by speaking out about what it is that is on your mind. The next article focused on the importance of being supportive about your man taking a periodic guys’ night out. In this article I am directing the conversation toward his faults. Everyone has faults. No matter how much you love your mate; eventually (usually found after you have lived together for … Continue reading →

Enrichment Tip: Give Him a Guy’s Night

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In my previous article I began discussing some tips and measures that women can take to help enhance their relationship with their husbands. There are simple things that partners can do to create a deeper and closer bond with one another. The first tip that I shared was to speak out. Communication is a very important part of a healthy relationship. By speaking up directly you can ensure that your husband understands your needs and concerns. This can help eliminate confusion and frustration. Speaking up as soon as you feel the need may also elevate hard feelings and arguments that … Continue reading →

Enrichment Tip: Speak Out

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Having a healthy relationship takes work. No relationship among two people is without conflict. While some mates handle their differences better than others, relationship enrichment can be positive for all couples. Enriching your marriage and strengthening your bond with your mate does not necessarily take a complete make-over. If you consider yourself to be in a fairly good and healthy relationship, then there are simple measures that you can take to enhance the connection that you and your partner share. If you feel that your relationship is struggling and in need of much work, the tips in my next few … Continue reading →

The Law of Readiness

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In the early part of the 20th century there was a man named Edward Lee Thorndike and he is considered one of the fathers of learning theory in psychology. One of his theories, the Law of Readiness is what I want to talk about today. Our relationships, whether they are dating, engagements, marriage or simply friendships and family, go through stages. Once upon a time, I was involved with a gentleman who was crazy for me and he was full of plans for marriage and a future. I wasn’t interested in marriage or a future and the more he talked … Continue reading →

Is Your Spouse Your Competitor or Companion?

Not very far from here is a couple that I see every day. Every evening they run past the house as they are out for their evening jog, often they are racing each other. I see them at the swimming pool and I listen to them compare everything from who makes more in a given week to who makes a better Chicken Marsala. (Don’t ask me, I’ve never tried it). They argue, wrangle or negotiate over everything. She spends more time with the kids so he cuts back his work hours to spend at least as much time as she … Continue reading →

Our Differences Help Us Grow

When it comes to being married, I’ve enjoyed conversations with other wives and husbands and I hear many of the same things all the time. What makes one partner in a couple happy may not make the other partner. Each partner makes sacrifices so that as a whole they will be happier. Yet, when you ask someone, directly – what do they value in their happiness? You may be surprised to find out that many people share the same things. For example, husbands and wives both: Do not like being taken for granted Like companionship Enjoy affection Value financial security … Continue reading →

My Spouse Won’t Go To The Doctor

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You know, we have a saying in my house, if you’re feeling pretty bad (i.e. ill) for more than three days and you won’t go to the doctor – don’t complain about it. We began this saying back when we had really good insurance and a doctor visit only cost us about $10. Then we went through a period where we had no insurance at all – (you may remember my husband’s emergency surgery last December – our $22,000 bill is a direct result of having no insurance then). Still – we’re lucky to have health insurance now – although … Continue reading →

The Three F’s Of Marriage

Have you ever heard of the three F’s? Well, that’s okay I’ll tell you about them right now. Recently I had a discussion with my mother that resulted in an epiphany for me. We were discussing something that had to do with my husband and she asked me if he was going to mind something we’d done in the yard and I commented, well if he did, we’d have to fight about it and figure it out. She frowned and looked very concerned and when I asked what was wrong, she said that she didn’t like conflict and she didn’t … Continue reading →

Marriage: The Grandfather Clause

My grandfather will be 94 years old next month. He is a kind, wonderful, interesting man with much knowledge to share and I always enjoy talking to him. Actually, I get more out of listening to him. He offers wisdom, insight, and advice on myriad topics, and it’s always good, solid, information, because it’s generally something he’s learned, observed, or experienced in his many years. His advice on marriage is something that will always stick with me. It is in fact good advice in regard to any personal relationship. Aside from the obvious –love- there is another trait that is … Continue reading →