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How to Find a Marriage Counselor

When your marriage is a bit rocky, you’ll want to seek out a good marriage counselor. But, you may not know where to turn. You don’t want to make your marriage worse by following the advice of a bad counselor. So, other than picking a marriage counselor randomly out of a phone book, what do you do? Here is some advice. Know Where to Look While the phone book is certainly an option, there are better ways. The first is through word of mouth from someone whose opinion you trust. However, you may be reluctant to share the fact that … Continue reading →

Interviewing Your Marriage Counselor – Things to Think About

So you and your spouse have decided to work with a counselor to try and sort out some problems. Your problems may include: · Financial issues (e.g. compulsive spending) · Emotional issues (e.g. trust) · Physical Dysfunction (e.g. sexual intimacy) · Communication issues (e.g. frequent arguments) The type of problems may have similarities in their expression in your marriage, but your reasons for seeking out a marriage counselor are your own. At least until you’ve sat down and talked to the marriage counselor. When it comes to choosing a marriage counselor, you need to be able to talk to this … Continue reading →

Warning Signs of a Subjective Marriage Counselor

Usually couples seek marriage counseling because they want to improve or save their marriages. Unfortunately, not all counselors are in the business of trying to make marriages better. Some are more about helping one spouse “escape” the marriage. To make sure this is not the type of counselor you are enlisting, watch out for these and similar warning signs: 1. The counselor gives a direct opinion about staying or leaving. The American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy says this is a no-no. Even if the advice is couched in suggestive language, such as, “I feel you should,” or “Maybe … Continue reading →

John’s Story

I told her I would go see the marriage counselor. It was my idea. I knew I screwed up. I felt like a screw up. It’s hard to explain to someone who isn’t me. You have to be in my head to get it. I shouldn’t have lied to her. I should have told her that I didn’t agree with the arbitrary decision she made and that it wouldn’t fly. Hell, I should have stood up that night and said no, she was going to have to deal with her issues. Instead, I let her bury them. I buried them. … Continue reading →