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How Does Your Temperament Impact on Your Marriage?

In a recent comment pastfirst said that cultural background can affect a marriage. So can your temperament. So can that of your spouse. If you are an optimist and he is a pessimist that will affect the way you look at situations. It may not necessarily be for the worst. Sometimes it is good to have that balance. I’m like Nellie out of ‘South Pacific,’ I’m the ‘cockeyed optimist’ in our marriage, which can lead to problems. Such a person is not careful that sometimes unrealistic and too optimistic expectations can lead to disappointment if things don’t turn out as … Continue reading →

When They Definitely do NOT “Sleep Like a Baby”

That saying, “sleep like a baby” implies that a person is sleeping quietly and deeply—lost to the world and floating in a land of sleepy dreams. As many parents realized, however, a large portion of children are NOT sweet, quiet sleepers. These noisy sleepers grunt, groan, cry out, make all sorts of noises, talk in their sleep, and some even get up and wander the house—walking in their sleep. When you are the parent of a child who is a fussy sleeper, it can keep YOU from getting a good night’s sleep. Just because a child is a noisy sleeper … Continue reading →

Kids who Wake up Crabby or Crying

Years ago, when I was still a teenager, I used to babysit for a couple of rambunctious little brothers. The younger one was really a very happy, humorous and playful little guy but every time he woke up from a nap or when he woke up in the morning, he would wake up crying. It would take him a good half hour of sitting on someone’s lap and being crabby and tearful before he would suddenly get himself fully awake, grin, climb down off the lap and go off to play or eat. Since then, I have met other children … Continue reading →

Which Child is Most Like You?

Every once in a while a friend or family member will ask me which of my three children do I think is most like me? It is always a tough question and I probably answer it differently every time. While all three of my kids have little snippets of their personalities that are similar to me, they are also very much their own people and they have been through so many different phases and stages that it is hard to pin down. The one who I thought was most like me ten years ago, is not necessarily the one who … Continue reading →

Do You Need to be More (or Less) Logical?

While I have always had a strong vein of logic running through me, I think I have become somewhat more detached and appreciative of logical reasoning as I’ve gotten older. Meanwhile, with three kids of very different temperaments, I have also had to learn that some respond well to logic and others need a little less of it… The truth is, some kids respond really well to logic. This can be challenging for a parent who is a little more on the intuitive or emotional side of things. These kids need to know the cause and effect of things and … Continue reading →

Why High Energy Isn’t All Bad

I think high energy kids get a bad rap. We’ve come to expect quite a bit from our children in terms of the ability to sit still, be sedate, and settle down to school work and small group activities from a much earlier age. Kids who run, jump, “act crazy” and “bounce off the walls” are seen as needing medication and therapy. As any parent of a high energy kid can tell you, however, all that abundant energy is not necessarily a bad thing. Some kids have high octane energy levels hard-wired from conception. They are often more active in … Continue reading →

We Don’t Get to Choose Their Personalities

Okay, confession time–when you imagined yourself as a parent, nurturing your little bundle of joy–did you imagine a child just like the one you have? For those of us who have more than one, perhaps we “knew” that we would have a house full of various personalities but chances are, we didn’t exactly imagine what we got. I think the Universe or God or whatever you choose to call it, has a way of sending us the children and personalities that we NEED–not necessarily those that we would choose for ourselves. I remember before I had my children, I would … Continue reading →

Sometimes, We’re All a Little Weird

There is nothing like family life to keep a person humble—no matter how cool and hip and “put together” you are able to present to the world at large, when you get a group of people living together in the family space, you’re bound to be confronted with just how weird you can really be. Not to mention, as parents, we welcome these adorable little creatures into our hearts and homes—only to discover that they have some strange habits, and evolve into the occasional weirdos! One of my daughters came into the kitchen this morning as I was finishing loading … Continue reading →

“But I’ve Just Gotten Them Broken In!”

My son does not like change. His personality is such that he likes to keep things simple, comfortable and predictable. He likes some surprises, but he also likes routine. He is not someone I see as going out into the world and taking on all sorts of daring adventures and risks, he tends to really value good friends and family and it has been fun watching as he grows more and more into himself. HOWEVER, the downside is that his avoidance of change means getting him to get a new pair of shoes, a new coat, or even get his … Continue reading →

Pushing Kids to Santa’s Lap

One of my daughters and I were out this weekend doing a little shopping at our nearby mall. Of course the place was abuzz with bodies and people and plenty of noise and the ching ching of cash registers. Since neither of us are big shoppers and she is less patient in a big crowd than I am, we didn’t last too long. But after feeling sorry for all the sad and sickly-looking puppies in the pet store, we wandered down to the main courtyard where the Santa operation was set-up. As we were watching the line of parents and … Continue reading →