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Do Women Talk Too Much?

We’ve all seen the caricature in movies and TV shows of women talking and the husband not listening. It happens in real life too. I’ve heard lots of women accuse their husbands of not listening or switching off. Hey, I might have even been guilty of that one myself. It’s a known fact though, that men have ‘selective hearing.’ Any woman can tell you that. But could we women be part of the problem? Is part of the problem that we women talk too much? Do we expect our men to communicate when they don’t really want to? On the … Continue reading →

Quality of Marriage

The quality of your marriage might well depend on whether and in what quantities these other Qs are present. If you or your spouse is any of those mentioned below you might for you marriage’s sake try and eliminate them from your marriage Querulous The dictionary definition is complaining or peevish. Do you know someone who is like this, who is always complaining? I do and, no, it’s not Mick or anyone in the family. No matter what anybody does it is never right, never good enough. There’s always something they have to whinge about. It is very wearing and … Continue reading →

Why Do I Even Bother?

Why do I even bother asking my kid to find anything? Why? Nothing ever good comes from it. Never mind that the items I’m asking my 5-year-old to locate belong to her. Her mittens, her scarf, her boots, her socks, her backpack, her library book… Why? Why do I waste precious time, energy and oxygen lecturing her about responsibility and being conscientious about her belongings? Why do I rant about creating a system whereby she places her winter gear in the same exact spot each day, so she can find them in that exact spot each day? Why do I … Continue reading →

When Your Spouse Doesn’t Listen

You often hear women joke that men have ‘selective hearing.’ But sometimes it is not a joke. Have you ever felt like that what you say to your spouse is not getting through to them? Whether it’s sex, work, household chores, friends and time spent with them, hobbies –the topic doesn’t matter particularly, if it’s a problem it needs to be talked about in a calm, reasonable manner that is non accusatory and blaming. But what if you’ve done that? Your spouse has appeared to be listening, made all the right noises, agreed things need to change and then…. Nothing … Continue reading →