How Does Your Temperament Impact on Your Marriage?

In a recent comment pastfirst said that cultural background can affect a marriage. So can your temperament. So can that of your spouse. If you are an optimist and he is a pessimist that will affect the way you look at situations. It may not necessarily be for the worst. Sometimes it is good to have that balance. I’m like Nellie out of ‘South Pacific,’ I’m the ‘cockeyed optimist’ in our marriage, which can lead to problems. Such a person is not careful that sometimes unrealistic and too optimistic expectations can lead to disappointment if things don’t turn out as … Continue reading

Who’s the Optimist/Pessimist in Your Relationship?

We’ve all heard the expression opposites attract, and what more obvious opposites are there than the optimist and the pessimist? But can the two survive (and happily) together in the same relationship? I think so. The Pessimist In my marriage, Wayne is predominately the pessimist. Not always. Sometimes we reverse rolls, but in general he tends to be less upbeat and have a less rosy outlook on life than me. He’s more prone to grumbling about any kind of bad situation we find ourselves in. Although, he has been known to make light of some of them to lessen the … Continue reading