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When the Other Parent Doesn’t Play by the Same Rules–Part Two

Yesterday, I touched on the subject of dealing with different operating agenda for two separate parents–you may have certain ideas about what sort of “rules” should apply to sharing custody and raising your child, and the other parent may have separate standards. While it can be incredibly frustrating and, at times, you may feel tempted to stoop to a lower level–you can hold out and stay the course with your idea of how you should act. You will never be able to control the other parent’s behavior–but you can set expectations and guidelines around your own behavior and parenting choices. … Continue reading →

When the Other Parent Doesn’t Play by the Same Rules–Part One

I have been writing a short little series on neutrality and sharing some tips for how to stay or appear neutral–even when you are not necessarily “feeling it” on the inside. One of the issues that can come up in co-parenting, single parenting, or sharing custody with an ex is that the other parent may very well NOT play by the same rules that you do… Perhaps you are like me, you’ve read several books on single parenting and you have set out to do the best job possible–providing healthy boundaries and making sure that you at least try to … Continue reading →

Marriage Advice: Different Styles of Discipline in Your Marriage

How you discipline your children or how you plan to discipline your children are not likely topics of discussion for two people planning to get married. If you did talk about this prior to getting married and worked out a number of these issues ahead of time, my hat is off to you. My husband and I were together for many years before we were married and our daughter arrived just shortly after our first anniversary. As an infant, discipline wasn’t really an issue – discipline doesn’t really start until your children are older. Discipline Can Make Your Marriage Bumpy … Continue reading →

Do You Have A Defiant Child? Check Your Parenting Style

We so often read or hear about the defiant, strong-willed child and what steps we can take to get them to become more cooperative. Maybe you are the parent of one of these kids and find yourself at the end of your rope. Have you ever considered that your parenting style might be responsible for your child’s defiance? In their book, Try and Make Me!, Ray Levy and Bill O’Hanlon write about three parenting styles that just might contribute to your child’s defiance. The Defiant Parent These parents expect perfect compliance from their kids. They tell them what to do … Continue reading →

Helicopter Parents: Are They Going Too Far

In a previous blog I talked about helicopter parents, parents who hover over their kids making decisions for them. Most parents stop when their kids become adults but apparently some are not yet willing to cut the apron strings. Some parents are writing their college-age kid resumes, hounding career counselors, attending job fairs and even going so far as to call employers and ask why their child was not selected for a job. School officials and employers are saying that these parents are not helping their children, in fact, they are hampering their careers. In the November 10th Washington Times, … Continue reading →