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The Way You Tell Your Family Stories May Change

Stories change. As our perception and our life experiences change and change us, the way we look back and see what has happened to us is changed as well. When we are in the midst of a difficult separation or divorce, or have just been through a traumatic loss–we may tell our family story one way, while year’s later, the story takes on a bit of a different patina. This is healthy and typical and can be a sign that you are moving through stages and growing. Think back over any romance or friendship or even a job you have … Continue reading →

Dealing with Invisible Demons and Made-Up Problems

There are plenty of real life dragons for all of us to wrestle with—single parents and partnered parents alike—so many, in fact, that I think it can be a good thing periodically if we ask ourselves if we are wrestling with real issues or if we are clinging to long-gone or invisible demons or are spending our energy working on problems we have actually made up ourselves. I know this might not be a very popular way to look at things, but sometimes we single parents might be clinging to outdated modes of thinking about our lives and/or fighting battles … Continue reading →

Is This Really a Crisis?

We single parents can get pretty used to operating in “crisis mode”—so used to it in fact that we might begin to assume that it is the natural state of things. Instead of getting ourselves geared up to respond to an emergency or crisis, we might actually need to settle ourselves down and learn how to discern what is truly a crisis and what is not. We might be making more out of every day occurrences than we need to. I do not fully understand how the human being can be so adaptable as to actually get used to dangerous, … Continue reading →

What’s Wrong With Being Single?

This may seem like an odd topic for the Marriage blog, but a conversation I had yesterday really got me thinking. Someone very close to me has spent the last few years kicking herself for choices she made, some good and some bad. She has two children, both products of affairs of the heart – the fathers were both men that she loved very much. With her first child, their relationship disintegrated in the weeks after the baby was born and with her second, the relationship was disintegrating during the pregnancy. She feels like a failure in the sense that … Continue reading →

Men & Stress

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It’s been discussed many, many times. Men and women are different. We know this. You may be thinking that’s rather obvious, I would respond that it is – and it isn’t – always obvious. First and foremost, men and women have different biological mechanisms and hormones. They possess different outlooks on life. Men and women are often exposed to different societal contexts. As a society, we nurture the emotional reactions, personality traits and yes – the differences – between the two genders. However, stress is a physiological reaction to change that occurs in every day life. Hard to think that … Continue reading →