Tag Archives: protective behaviours

BITSS of Say No.

It has always struck me as strange that while we want our children to grow into confident, assertive adults, we do not allow them to practice assertiveness as children. Although many toddlers start out saying “no” on every occasion, we soon halt this learning by telling the babies that saying “no” is not nice. Sexual abuse is not nice either and when children have been trained to never say “no” to grown ups, they become easy targets for predators. Saying “no” is not a form of disrespect. It is an example of assertiveness and high self-esteem. Of course, there will … Continue reading →

BITSS of Touch

Any touch can quickly turn from good to bad. So too can sexual activity and the grooming process that leads up to sexual abuse. Therefore, it is VERY important your child understands good touches/bad touches. Just as adults have the authority to say no at any time, so too do children. If someone is cuddling them and then tries to touch their private parts, children need to know this is a bad touch and they can say no and go and tell someone, even if the cuddle was good at first and they really wanted it. Most children are familiar … Continue reading →

Make Cute Doorknob Hangers

Make a cute doorknob hanger to personalize your child’s bedroom door. You can also make other designs that spell out words like love, dance, friends, dreams, etc. You will need a strip of heavy paper, fabric, or wide ribbon about 22” long and 3” wide. Fold the top over about ½” then fold it over again. Glue in place to make the top sturdier. Cut or punch a hole in the center of the top. Thread narrow ribbon or raffia through the hold and tie a bow. Add another piece and make a loop large enough to hang your project … Continue reading →

BITSS of Intuition

Intuition is the adult term for what kids know as early warning signs. It is said that females have better intuition than males because girls are more sensitive. Perhaps that’s only because some of us train our sons NOT to rely on their intuition and not to show their feelings about things. We like them to be manly: rational, sensible, scientific, and cut off from their feelings. And when male children are sensitive we put them down by telling them not to be girls/sissies/cry babies!? The other thing we often do when children show emotion is to tell them to … Continue reading →

BITSS of Body Ownership.

From the moment we are born, our body belongs to us. Our body is part of our human signature. Babies may need to rely on adults to care for them but each baby’s body is still unique: they have their own skin, tone, imprints, hair, voice, size and shape. A newborn baby has little understanding of where their body begins and ends, so as loving carers, we engage in touch, good touch, to teach our babies what is theirs and what is ours. We stroke them, massage them and put clothes on them to give a message of body boundaries … Continue reading →

The BITSS to Teach Children About Protective Behaviors

Yesterday we looked at The Protective Behavior Program. Today I’d like to share another, super easy model of Protective Behaviors. The BITSS you need to remember to help keep your kids safe. After eight years of research with families and children, I developed an easy to remember model of protective play to use in your home and on a daily basis. Most of the families, children and professionals that I researched with failed to remember either the name of “The Protective Behaviour Program” or the two themes that guide the teaching and rules of protective behavior. This scared me and … Continue reading →

Protective Behaviors for Personal Safety

Protective Behaviors is a sensible, down to earth plan for personal safety in any risky situation. Protective Behaviors cover sun, road, water, poison, health and personal safety. A method of developing personal power, Protective Behaviors gives people the skills they need to protect themselves from harm. Often used to protect children, Protective Behavior programs also help the elderly, the sick, and buildings like schools or churches that are sometimes a target for damage. American Social Worker, Peg Floundreu West, is responsible for the development of the most famous Protective Behaviour program in the world. In 1984, after working with children … Continue reading →

Teaching Children About Child Molesters

With child abuse numbers so high it is important that parents educate their children. Teaching children to be wary of strangers is not enough, since about 90% of abuse cases happen with an adult that the child knows and respects. The National Center for Missing and Exploited Children stresses that parents need to teach their children using “clear, calm, reasonable messages about situations and actions to look for.” What We Need To Teach Our Children Child Help USA, an organization that offers support to children who have been abused or neglected, provides a list of prevention tips for parents to … Continue reading →