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How Well Do You Know Your Spouse?

We all have individual likes and dislikes. Sometimes they are the things that make us the person we are. Try this fun quiz to see how much you really know about your spouse. Then get your spouse to answer the same questions about themselves? Swap over and see how much they know about you. Compare your answers. You might just find a few areas where you don’t know as much about your spouse as you thought. Also it might speak off a really interesting conversation. 1. What is your spouse’s favorite color? 2. What do they most enjoy doing? 3. … Continue reading →

Living a Life without Regret

Lately some teen stars (who I won’t name, but we all know who they are) have apologized for pictures of themselves that have been released on the Internet. These pictures were posed and not taken accidentally, and yet somehow these stars didn’t realize until after their release that they were inappropriate. I’m a little confused by that—if there’s a camera pointed at you and you aren’t fully clothed, I would think that you’d know what was going on. Anyway, pushing my little judgmental voice back into the box where I try to keep it, I’ll move on to the point … Continue reading →

Stages of Birthparents’ Thinking About Adoption

My last two blogs have been based on Beth Hall and Gail Steinberg’s work in their book, Inside Transracial Adoption. I have tried to briefly summarize their explanation of common stages gone through by adoptees and adoptive parents. In this blog I will discuss their interpretation of birthparents’ reactions. Naturally, these ideas represent the authors’ experiences of patterns many members of the adoption triad (child, birthparents, adoptive parents) report feeling. Individuals’ experiences may be different, of course. In the Pre-Conscious Stage, birthparents think that even though it breaks their heart not to be able to raise their baby, the adoption … Continue reading →

The Blessings in Making Good Choices

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It’s pretty much a no-brainer that good choices are more likely to bring good outcomes, but I’d like to dig a little bit deeper here and look at why there is blessing in making good choices and why we should avoid doing foolish things: Father knows best: God has good reason for commanding us to abstain from sin. Sin brings destruction in our lives and sin is what separates us from a relationship with our loving Father who is the giver of every good thing. Those around us: The choices we make don’t always just affect us; they may affect … Continue reading →

Dealing with Consequences of Poor Choices

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Have you ever done anything stupid financially or hurt someone and felt tremendous regret over your actions? Maybe it felt like a bad dream you’d hoped to wake up from but couldn’t. I imagine all of us at one point or another have done something stupid that we couldn’t undo. When we make poor choices it might feel like God is angry with us. As a result, we may pull away from Him because our shame is so great. I had a lot of regret one weekend after having a custom ring made. I liked the design. I was forced … Continue reading →

Living with Regrets

Many walk in shame and embarrassment from their past wrong doings. I want you to know if you have repented, God’s desire is not to condemn you (Romans 8:1-3). If you’re feeling condemnation, you need to recognize the enemy of your soul and rebuke him. I want you to please look at Psalm 103:10-13: “He has not dealt with us according to our sins, nor punished us according to our iniquities. For as the heavens are high above the earth, so great is His mercy toward those who fear Him; as far as the east is from the west, so … Continue reading →