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Rule Number 4: One Size Doesn’t Fit All

As Valentine’s Day approaches, and as I contemplate ways in which to fulfill my New Year’s Marriage Blog goals, I’ve been digesting some food for thought provided by a discussion in the forums. I had posted a thread asking readers what kind of articles they’d like to see more of in ’08. It led to a sub-discussion within the thread about making marriages work and keeping them healthy and strong. Two people, MissyChrissy and QueenAngie, raised excellent points about what it takes to make marriages work. They both pointed out how key communication is, as is respect. But as far … Continue reading →

Rule Number 3: Change is a Catch-22

Change is one thing every relationship is going to encounter. Perhaps my fellow blogger Heather Long summed it up best when she answered a reader’s question with the sage words: change is inevitable. What is Change? The word “change” has a lot of meanings. I never realized that until I started writing this and looked it up in my Webster’s. It can mean change as in currency. Or an action, like changing your clothes or types of transportation (like changing from a subway train to a bus). But change as it applies to a relationship can have utterly different meanings. … Continue reading →

Rule Number 2: You Get What You Give

Last week I covered Rule Number 1, which was there’s no such thing as a perfect marriage. This week I’m going to examine another rule, the “get what you give” principle. ”This one sounds familiar…” It should. I preach “get what you give” every chance I get. Why? Because I know it’s one hundred percent effective. Take an article I wrote last October: How a Positive Attitude Affects Your Relationship. I dared you to practice harnessing the power of a positive attitude the next time your relationship was in need of a mood shift. Did you try it? If not, … Continue reading →

Rule Number 1: No Such Thing as a Perfect Marriage

Since I decided my focus for 2008 would be resolving to make the best of marriage, I have to start somewhere. Setting rules seems like a logical place. Perhaps the most important, fundamental rule is realizing perfection is a myth. Nobody, and No Marriage, Is Perfect I don’t believe in such a thing as the perfect marriage. Everyone has flaws, therefore every marriage will have flaws. That’s not to say you can’t enjoy an incredible marriage though. That’s always something you can strive for. As long as you do the following: (a) Accept It, Flaws are Inevitable If you accept … Continue reading →