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The Number 1 Attitude

The more I thought about that research and the claims that self control could be bad and have negative effects, the more it seemed to me it is just another excuse for selfishness. The simple fact is our society promotes selfishness. Advertising gurus have fed us the lie ‘it’s all about you,’ and society has swallowed it. The ads tell us, ‘you’re the most important person,’ or ‘you’re worth it.’ So is it any wonder people then go into marriage with the attitude of what they can get out of it rather than what they can give. I was talking … Continue reading →

Can Self-Control Be a Bad Thing?

Can self-control be a bad thing? According to a recent scientific study, apparently it can. Can empathizing with others be a bad thing? Again experts have decided it apparently can be. What do you think? Well, I’m going to have to disagree on this. It seems to me, that too often the problems in marriages are caused by selfishness and lack of self-control rather than by self control and empathizing with our spouse. If each of us stopped and thought before we spoke, we might decide not to say what we’d been going to, because we’d realize how much it … Continue reading →

Selfishness and Dishonesty Taken to the Extreme

I was horrified when I read this article about a man who infected the woman he claimed to love, and who he later married, with HIV. According to reports , he did not tell her he had the virus when the couple first ‘began a sexual relationship in 1996.’ Instead he knowingly and willingly passed the disease on to the woman he supposedly loved without telling her. By the time she found out, it was too late. This has to be the height of selfishness on this man’s part. Obviously Judge Thomas Wodak thought so too, He said ‘the fact … Continue reading →

The Ultimate Gift (2006)

Based on the faith-affirming novel by James Stovall, “The Ultimate Gift” is the story of one young man’s quest for a life of fun and his grandfather’s dreams of a better future for him. Jason Stevens (Drew Fuller) has never had to work for anything in his life. He’s got a trust fund, a mother who doles out money like candy, and he’s living large. His girlfriend loves his easy spending habits, and together they party until dawn with little thought about others. When Jason’s grandfather, Red (James Garner) passes away, the family gathers around like vultures, wanting to know … Continue reading →

Defending Yourself Against the Aging Narcissist (1)

We’ve discussed in previous articles the many pitfalls of dealing with the aging narcissist, especially when the person concerned is a parent. There is an internal struggle familiar to adult children of narcissists and that is the need to treat their frail and aging parent in a humane way and yet a profound desire to maintain a sense of self and prevent further psychological harm to oneself. Here are some tips for dealing with this delicate dance between humanity and self-preservation: 1. Know your weaknesses. As discussed in previous articles, these may not be weaknesses at all, but rather psychological … Continue reading →

The Self-Centeredness DOES Get to Me

First I’d like to say that I adore my kids–and on most occasions I have complete faith that they will evolve into caring, considerate and contributing adults. But, the reality of childhood and adolescence is that kids have a tendency to be amazingly self-centered. As we work to introduce all that caring, consideration, etc. into our children’s character, we are still battling against the typical self-centeredness that seems to be developmentally appropriate for a child. And, I’m here to tell you that it does sometimes aggravate me to no end! I don’t know if it is environmental or inherent in … Continue reading →

Are You Good or Are You Great?

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Would you call your relationship good or would you call it great? A great relationship isn’t the product of a storybook tale that just happens when a fairy godmother waves her magic wand. They happen because you take charge and you make it happen. To have a great relationship, you need to be great. The things you accomplish do not define greatness, but how you accomplish them makes a huge difference. So how can you be great in your relationship? First and foremost, does your spouse know where they stand with you? Do they feel adored? Do they know they … Continue reading →

Why Doesn’t Everybody Serve Me?

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OK, so maybe this is a question that I would never verbalize, but it is definitely a question I have asked in my heart a time or two. For the past few days I have been pretty much house-ridden because one of my children has been sick with the flu. Last night, at the end of day three, I felt myself becoming very frustrated. My husband had been busy all weekend. In fact, I had hardly seen him at all. I started to feel a little put out that I was the one who had been solely responsible for taking … Continue reading →

King George and the Ducky (2000)

When I first heard that the folks at VeggieTales were going to do the story of Bathsheba, I thought their brains must be the size of peas. How would you tell that story in a way that is appropriate for children? Well, I should have had a little more faith. They not only did it, but they did it very well. Taking their cue from the fact that there was a bath involved in the original Bible story, they created a storyline where the object of desire was a rubber duck. Larry the Cucumber plays King George, a man who … Continue reading →