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How Much of Your Identity is “Single”?

When I am writing my articles for the Single Parents blog, I seldom write the word “single” without it being followed by the word “parent(s)”–for those of us who ARE single parents, we might find that the label of “single” either fits or does not feel like it describes our existences well at all. Our identity may involve so many things that while the rest of the world may be judging us solely on whether we are “coupled” or not, we might or might not agree… Even though the numbers prove that there are many, many single adults–both parents and … Continue reading →

Why Some People Never Marry

Yesterday I detailed my opinion of the pros and cons of remaining single. In today’s article, I will discuss why I believe that some people stay single and never marry. Why People Never Marry Reason #1 No True Love Some people never find what they believe is their true love. They would like to get married but just have not found that special someone. There could be various reasons why the right person has not come along. It may be that the expectations are too high. Some people are very self involved and are not willing to give in a … Continue reading →

The People that Never Marry

I never thought any different than getting married and having children. It was just something that I knew that I would do. However, some people do not have this same perspective on life. I have a couple of friends that are not married and they are nowhere near marriage in the future. Neither one dates and they both are living their lives single and happy (at least they say that they are). Both women are often set-up or encouraged to date someone. However, they both seem content with their career and being by themselves. Neither woman is living a wild … Continue reading →

If I’m Not Partnered, Why Don’t I Feel Single?

I can easily refer to myself as a single parent, but I have a hard time thinking of myself as a single person. I’ve talked to some other single parents who have confessed to the same feeling. Partly, I think it is because being uncoupled or un-partnered as an older person with children feels a great deal different than being young and single, or not having any dependents or other people with whom we are sharing our lives. I may check “single” or “divorced” when I fill out forms, but I really feel more like the “head of the household…” … Continue reading →

Taylor Hicks – The Single and the First Album

With the finale of this year’s American Idol competition counting down just a couple of weeks away, I thought it would be fun to take a look at the music of Taylor Hicks, last year’s Idol. Taylor’s first release was a single, with “Do I Make You Proud?” on one side and “Takin’ It to the Streets” on the other. You’ll recall that “Do I Make You Proud?” is the song chosen for both Taylor and first runner-up Katherine McPhee to sing, and the winner would record it. (And he did!) I didn’t find it to be at all his … Continue reading →

Summer and the Single Parent

I don’t know about you, but in the years since I’ve become a single parent—I dread summers! Summers are definitely the most challenging time for me in terms of keeping track of the children, making sure they are cared for and their time is reasonably structured and we are able to do at least some family summer stuff. All this while continuing to work and run the household. Without the inherent structure of a school day and extracurricular activities, summer time can be a struggle for the single parent. In addition to the time management aspects of the summer vacation, … Continue reading →

Allowing Your Own Parenting Style to Emerge

One of the gifts that can happen upon becoming a single parent is that we no longer have to adhere to the same parenting style we used when we were part of a marriage or another situation. We may have developed a style that was reactionary, or made up for things lacking or we may have been able to avoid dealing with things like discipline or nurturing because the other parent “took care of that.” While change is seldom easy, single parenthood can provide us with the opportunity to discover and allow a more authentic version of our parenting style … Continue reading →

Single Doesn’t Have to Mean Lonely

It’s hard to be alone, but there is a difference between being alone and being lonely. Alone can be a good thing, at least sometimes, but lonely is another story. It can be depressing and difficult to see ahead to a future where you won’t always feel that way. It’s a vicious circle really, because the lonelier one feels, the needier he or she tends to become, and neediness is not very attractive. The first thing to do is to make sure you include other people in your life and stay active, even if it means spending time with people … Continue reading →

Single Parent Escapes

Once you go through a divorce and become a single parent, you will find that you have different friends and different opportunities for escapes or adventures. At first, going out as a single parent may be a little unnerving but each time you go out, you will feel more and more comfortable with various situations. Making friends is very important as a single parent so you have someone to do things with, especially if you share the same interest. However, remember that you are literally starting life over so the building of friendships may take time. In addition, chances are … Continue reading →

Making Friends as a Single Parent

When going through a divorce, a number of things happen. For instance, you find yourself living alone or looking for a new place to live, you are required to spend your time differently with the children, finances can become more challenging, and your schedule is not overflowing with responsibilities. Another huge change that occurs after a divorce is that instead of hanging out with current, married friends, you soon find that you do not fit in. As a single parent, you will likely discover yourself in the need of new friends, people who are also divorced and in need of … Continue reading →