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A Little Spoiling Goes a Long Way

In Mary Ann’s blog she wrote about electing to buy sensible practical gifts for people in hard times and some of you shared your crafty projects. While I can see it makes economic sense to be practical, one of the things I love about my husband is that he doesn’t buy me things for the house and practical gifts. I would hate that! The thing is he knows home well He knows I like pretty things. They don’t have to be expensive. They do have to be pretty or fun. We try and make our gifts to each other – … Continue reading →

Grandparents, Are You Being Fair?

Grandparents are you being fair to your children and your grandchildren? Too often I hear grandparents say they enjoy having grandchildren because ‘I can spoil them rotten and then hand them back to their parents.’ I’m appalled whenever I hear grandparents make such comments. When my Mom was alive no-one could have loved her grandson more but she never spoilt him. She treated him the same way she treated me growing up –by showing lots of love but not spoiling him and buying things all the time and certainly not by letting him misbehave or run rampant. If he was … Continue reading →

Watch Out for Labels Like “Lazy” and “Spoiled”

I always cringe when I hear parents refer to their children with a blatantly negative label. Words like “lazy” and “spoiled” have such negative connotations and carry with them such baggage that it seems unfair to brand a child lazy or spoiled (or nasty or mean, etc.). Instead of labeling and complaining about a “lazy” child, why not look to the behaviors and see what can be done? The problem with labels (okay, there are many problems with labels) is that they can brandish a child in a negative way and make it tough for the child or the parent … Continue reading →

Parenting God’s Way

‘I want my children to be happy. You can’t deprive them of everything or they’ll go the other way and rebel.’ Is this what you think? Is it how you deal with your children? This comment came out of an column by Ruth Ostrow. The comment made by a parent of her child’s friend, was used as an excuse for providing an unhealthy food for her child. Ruth Ostrow went onto say that Neer Korn, researcher of social trends, found many parents ‘have a guilt complex.’ The result is they try and make up for it by providing treats like … Continue reading →

Creative Discipline

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Each child is a masterpiece from God. Aside from some guidelines we’ve been given in the Bible, there is really no one-hundred percent reliable manual for raising these little ones. I believe every child requires creative parenting. Prior to having children of my own, I worked in a preschool. I really felt it was great preparation for my children. While my husband and I were waiting to be parents, we read books, and took classes. We were determined to be prepared for whatever came our way. I chuckle now because once our first son was placed with us, we were … Continue reading →

Why I ‘Spoil’ My Babies

I have always been accused of spoiling my babies by the casual observer. I carry them when they want to be carried, nurse them into the toddler years, and co-sleep rather than letting them cry. I’ve always just felt ‘right’ about parenting this way and it works well for our family. In fact, if I spoil my babies, my husband is the indulgence king. If you read books on attachment parenting, this is our philosophy and we follow most of it pretty closely. It is not so much that we read ‘the book’ and decided that’s what we wanted to … Continue reading →

Hold the Phone! Research States That Parents Should Pick Up Their Baby When It Cries

You’ll have to excuse my somewhat sarcastic tone as I write this, but when this headline appeared in my news feeds this morning I found myself staring at it in disbelief. After all, who would pay for this kind of study? As it turns out, the Queensland University of Technology did the research and it was part of a joint study with the Early Parenting Centre. Researchers found that many new parents were uncertain and concerned that if they picked up their child every time it cried, they would end up spoiling their baby. This fear is understandable; especially if … Continue reading →

Eli’s Sons

Throughout the Bible God speaks of the importance of parents raising their children to obey the Lord. In the first few chapters of 1st Samuel the Bible speaks of a priest named Eli and his sons, Hophni and Phinehas. Eli’s sons were wicked in the sight of God, disobeying their father Eli, and the Lord. Here are some of the words or phrases used to describe the sons of Eli: “Worthless men” (1st Samuel 2:12) “They would not listen to the voice of their father” (1st Samuel 2:25) “The sin of the young men was very great in the sight … Continue reading →