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Is Cybersex Cheating?

My first encounter with cybersex is still something I find myself laughing about. For many people, being online takes away the fear and apprehension that people feel when speaking to someone face to face. They can be cooler or hotter, better looking or nicer. I’m not a huge fan of it and the naughty provocative bit wore off after realizing there are only so many euphemisms that one can use for the words male and female private parts. Even typing those terms here seems almost too clinical a way to refer to the act of verbally seducing another person through … Continue reading →

What if Your Spouse Won’t Go to Church?

Religion can be a volatile subject in any kind of relationship. That’s even more true of marriage, if both spouses hold very divergent views. One spouse is certain that his or her religion is “the one” while the other person feels the same way about his or her own faith, or is not a religious person at all. It’s a difficult situation, because people who are devoted to their faith feel that way for a reason. It’s usually because they believe that by following the teachings of their religion, worshipping their God, they will be rewarded rather than condemned in … Continue reading →

What does Unfaithful Mean?

Many marriages are damaged after one or both spouses are unfaithful. Rebuilding trust can be difficult if not impossible. If there are children in the marriage, being unfaithful to your spouse doesn’t mean just cheating on your husband or wife, it means cheating on your entire family, because everyone is affected. We all understand what cheating means, but are there other ways of being unfaithful? We’ve discussed emotional affairs, where one spouse seeks emotional support or companionship outside the marriage. “He was so easy to talk to,” or, “She always listened and never criticized my ideas,” say a lot about … Continue reading →

Married with Children: Being the Bad Guy

In households where one spouse is the main disciplinarian, the other spouse may begin to resent always being the bad guy. It is important for married couples to present a united front for their children, and to share child rearing decisions, even those that are unpleasant. No one wants to be the parent that always enforces the rules, gives out chores, or metes out discipline. It’s not fair to make one person responsible for all the “dirty work.” Mothers and fathers both love their children, but both also want to be liked. We know we don’t do our kids any … Continue reading →

What If My Spouse Doesn’t Find Me Attractive?

I have seen a lot of posts about this on the forums recently and I’ve wondered about this myself. After all, our personal body image affects how we perceive other people’s reactions to us. It’s harder when a husband or wife tells us flat out that we are not attractive. So my first question in this scenario is ‘why not?’ What is about them or me that they or I do not find attractive? Is it physically based? Does weight play a factor into it? Is it appearance, how they dress? Facial hair? How they style their hair? What is … Continue reading →

Making Time for Your Marriage: Couple Time

Happily ever after is not a destination. It’s a journey, a work in progress. It requires consistent effort on the part of both spouses to keep the marriage fulfilling. One of the best ways to accomplish this is to put your marriage first, at least some of the time. Yes, that means putting your marriage ahead of the demands of work, home, and even your children at times. Don’t misunderstand. I already sense people saying, “But the children must come first!” I agree with this as an overall premise, but our marriages deserve and they require top billing, at least … Continue reading →

What Makes a Good Spouse?

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How someone defines a good spouse will most likely depend on one’s own personality, likes, and dislikes. Still, there are some general qualities that most of us would wish for in our spouses and ourselves. These characteristics are what we hold dear and value in relationships. Let’s take a look at five important traits that make a good spouse! 1. Putting the other person first Let’s face it, we all want to be with an unselfish person who considers our needs above his or her own. As they say, if we begin to treat our spouses the way we wished … Continue reading →