Spying, Trust, and Checking Up

As kids get older, one of the ongoing arguments or debates that parents and children tend to have is the “You don’t trust me—It has nothing to do with trust” argument. Back and forth it goes as children strive for independence and parents try to find that balance between trusting and letting go, AND being responsible and involved parents. It can be confusing for some of us to know where to draw the line and what is okay—where do we really stand on spying, checking up, and trust? There are so many things about parenting that can bring up our … Continue reading

The Case For Parental Snooping!

My name is Nicki and I’m a snooper. It’s not that I think my kids are bad kids. It’s that I think they are KIDS. They are innately curious, they want to please, and they want to avoid upsetting us. And so sometimes they are led to do things that they shouldn’t in order to feed these goals. And because they are illogical kids, sometimes they think “I’d better not give this report card to my parents because they want me to do well and I don’t want to disappoint them” without also thinking “If I withhold info from my … Continue reading