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The Basic Tools of Marriage

Most of the time, when people enter into a marriage, they have no idea what they are in for. They focus so much energy on the ceremony itself or the idea of being married that they forget about actually being prepared for the marriage itself. Months or years later, things can change and start to break down. Fortunately, with the proper marriage tools, repairs can be made. So what are the basic tools of marriage? Well, love, certainly. Love is the bond that brings you together and can hold you together. When things get tough, you can rely on that … Continue reading →

Negotiation is the Key to a Successful Relationship

Communication, empathy, and intimacy – these are all important qualities that you need in a relationship. We’ve also talked about flexibility being an important component in creating a successful relationship. You need a key to blend all of these qualities together and that key is negotiation. Life is Fluid & Demands Change When we meet new people, we play roles – whether they are roles created by our culture or roles created by who we want to be. The role may be that of the young urban professional, the dedicated volunteer or something else. We play these roles because we … Continue reading →

The Beauty of Mature Love

An unknown author wrote: ‘The question is asked Is there anything more beautiful in life than a young couple clasping hands and pure hearts in the path of marriage? Can there be anything more beautiful than young love? And the answer is given. Yes, there is a more beautiful thing, It is the spectacle of an old man and an old woman finishing their jounrey together on that path. Their hands are gnarled, but still clasped; their faces are seamed, but still radiant; their hearts are physically bowed and tired, but still strong with love and devotion for one another. … Continue reading →

The Learning Curve

When it comes to spending time with your spouse, what can we learn from the various relationships portrayed on primetime television? My viewpoint is going to be rather limited because despite the fact that I enjoy television – there’s only a limited number of shows that I actually watch. However, as evening television shows goes – there are two shows that give a positive, if quirky, viewpoint on marriage that I have enjoyed watching in the last few years. Gilmore Girls The premise of Gilmore is that Lorelei Gilmore got pregnant at 16 years old, her parents pressed her to … Continue reading →

Permission to Change

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When you get married, a lot of people focus on the idea of the life you will build with your spouse. They focus on what you each bring to the marriage and how much happier you will be together. What is worth remarking on is that while a couple makes a pledge to grow old together, they do not necessarily understand that by saying grow old alongside of me, you are tacitly saying they have your permission to experience life and its changes as they happen. I am not just talking about hairlines receding or cosmetic color changes to hairstyle. … Continue reading →