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Is It Ever Right to Lie?

Is it ever right to lie in a marriage? Recently on the TV show ‘Lie to Me’ they were talking about the different ways of lying and that most people tell white lies. Should we differentiate and try to make some lies seem less serious than others. Why might you or your spouse lie? Sometimes it can be to spare the other person’s feelings. She asks, ‘what’s the matter?’ You don’t want to answer because you’re frightened it will only lead to an argument or to tears. So you shrug and say nothing. Is that any less hurtful? You ask … Continue reading →

Free to Be Yourself?

Are you free to be yourself in your marriage? Or do you always feel you have to be on your best behavior or changing the way you act or the things you say or even truing to change your feelings to accommodate your spouse? One of the things I like about my marriage is that I am free to be myself. Because really I don’t know any other way to be anyway. I’m not good at pretending to be something I’m not or with other people who pretend to be something that they’re not. The other night Mick and I … Continue reading →

How About a Little Delicacy?

“Delicacy” is not a word that I often hear any longer—especially as it relates to human interactions. We tend to be living in a bold, straight-forward, honesty-no-matter-what world if you ask me and maybe as parents, what we could use a little more of, is a bit of “delicacy”… I know that the word delicacy can imply a weakness or a frailty, but that is not how I am thinking of it. I am thinking more in terms of using some diplomacy and gracefulness in how we approach subjects and situations. As our children get older, we really may find … Continue reading →