Is It Ever Right to Lie?

Is it ever right to lie in a marriage? Recently on the TV show ‘Lie to Me’ they were talking about the different ways of lying and that most people tell white lies. Should we differentiate and try to make some lies seem less serious than others. Why might you or your spouse lie? Sometimes it can be to spare the other person’s feelings. She asks, ‘what’s the matter?’ You don’t want to answer because you’re frightened it will only lead to an argument or to tears. So you shrug and say nothing. Is that any less hurtful? You ask … Continue reading

Dishonesty and the Little White Lies

What are little white lies? I’m sure all of us have used them from time to time. Aren’t they the little half-truths that aren’t intended to hurt anyone? Satan is full of these deceptive sugar coated lies and most of us may find ourselves eating them (some of us literally) on a daily basis. It’s true not all white lies are done with malicious motives. Making up a story to conceal a surprise party, or telling your children that Santa brought some of the Christmas gifts for them, are hard for me to personally justify. I struggle with the deceit … Continue reading

The Little White Lies That We Tell

A lie is a lie is a lie, right? Yes and no. We talk about lies as being good lies and bad lies. How do we separate the lies that are good from the lies that are bad? Why do we call them white lies, but a lie is a lie and not a black lie. How do we differentiate between the two? How do we justify one lie that is good and one lie that is bad? When do we in the course of marriage communication weave together a fabric of lies so tight that suddenly, we don’t recognize … Continue reading