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Valentine Fitness Tip: Ballroom Dancing

Looking for something fun and fit to do this Valentine’s Day? Consider recommitting to your relationship with your spouse or significant other in a way that improves your health, your fitness and your intimacy with each other. Ballroom dancing already benefits from the popularity of shows like Dancing with the Stars, but it’s also a way to improve your relationship with your love. Aerobic Workout Make no mistake, ballroom dancing is a great way to get your aerobic workout for both of you. Have you ever seen dancers make the kind of moves you can when you are ballroom dancing … Continue reading →

A Year of Potential Dreams

Do you know what this year is? No, not the number 2007 – it’s the beginning of the year and the rest of the year is spread out in front of you and it’s packed full of potential. One of the problems that confronts the majority of us as we get older and more mired down in responsibilities and obligations that we forget that we can make our own opportunities and we can make our dreams come true. That’s what this year is for you and your spouse – this is a year the two of you can make your … Continue reading →

What Have You Done for Me Lately?

I hate that question. Hate may sound like a strong word, but honestly – I do hate it. I hate that word and I hate what it intimates in a relationship and I hate that there are definitely times when I find myself thinking it as well. What have you done for me lately? is a judgmental question designed to weigh the activities of your spouse and anyone else you are thinking of and assigning a value system to it. If your spouse took out the trash, for example, that might be worth two points, but if they went out … Continue reading →

Family Fitness: Get Back Up

We have special exercise needs. Our families and our children have special exercise needs. Our teenagers have very specific exercise needs and we need to keep this in mind as they develop. They can be far more susceptible to damage from overuse of their joints, bones and muscles during exercise. How many of us have injuries relating back to our teenage years? (I do! I have a bad knee.) Too many of our kids are spending way too much time in front of the television or playing video games online or off. They are not getting the time to run, … Continue reading →

If only I weren’t married, then I would ….

Those eight little words are not positive for any married individual to be considering when they are married. After all, if only I weren’t married indicates you are seriously not thinking about being married. It also indicates a certain level of unhappiness with your marriage. Beyond That Beyond the negative implications of the phrase: if only I weren’t married, then I would … indicates a severe problem with your own level of self-confidence. The reason I stand by this is because I had that thought in my own head for about fifteen minutes once and then I spent about an … Continue reading →

How To Get Your Husband to Clean Up

Getting your husband to clean up may seem like it would take an act of Congress with help from the National Guard, but there are ways to encourage better habits in your spouse. While this blog may talk about husbands, the following advice should be useful for both genders. It may seem like women are naturally neater, this is not always the case. He Constantly Leaves Things Lying Around the House The most common complaint a wife may have about her husband is feeling like she is looking after another child. It can be even tougher when the five year … Continue reading →

Marriage: Solving Problems Together

Marriage is often described as a partnership. That means both partners are supposed to work together, to be a team. It can be difficult to work together when problems arise and emotions are running high. The key is to begin working on problems right away instead of waiting until a small issue because a full blown crisis. For example, money problems can be difficult to discuss. If one spouse is careful with money while the other spends like there is not tomorrow, it will lead not only to financial problems, but also to resentment. The saver will feel like he … Continue reading →

Money Can be a Problem for Marriage

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Money problems are one of the oldest and most difficult problems that confront married couples whether they have been married for five days, five months or five years. So deciding how money is going to be handled is among the most difficult decisions and one where all the guidance in the world does not provide a sure-fire formula for what will work. There is a great book on the subject called Financial Planning for Couples by Adriane G. Berg. Berg makes the observation that a couple will know what feels fair. If it feels fair – then it’s right. Joint … Continue reading →

Combine Your Time

One of the biggest complaints the busy couple may have is how little time they get to spend together. This can be a particular bone of contention when their hobby of choice is different. While a couple can have different interests, if they are spending their work and play time apart – when do they get to combine their time together? A good piece of advice in this scenario is to learn something about the other’s hobbies. Does your husband like to play golf? Take some golf lessons. You may discover that you enjoy it and the two of you … Continue reading →

Tossing out the Marriage Guidebook – What Every Couple Needs to Know

When I hear somebody sigh, ‘Life is hard,’ I am always tempted to ask, ‘Compared to what?’ -Sydney J. Harris I talked about what every husband needs to know and what every wife needs to know today. Now I want to talk about what every couple needs to know. Marriage is a union that involves your personalities, your dreams, your aspirations, your needs and yes, your flaws as well. Sometimes you have to toss out the guidebook and make allowances for personality quirks and flaws. You have to show patience. You have to show understanding. But beyond those, you need … Continue reading →