Have you ever been in a public place and watched a young child, or even a teenager talk to his or her parent with a complete lack of respect? I always feel bad for the mom but I feel worse for the child. Someone has taught him that this behavior is not only acceptable, but a normal way to get what you want.
As a single mother it’s hard to be the only disciplinarian but we must do it. How our children treat us now is a reflection of how they will treat us and other adults when they are older.
Even as a young child we need to teach our children that talking back, yelling and disrespect will not be tolerated. If you yell at your children they will learn to that yelling is an acceptable way to communicate. The same goes with belittling your child or talking down to her. So many people say that respect is not given freely, it has to be earned. I have a different point of view. I believe we should always treat others with respect, whether they deserve it or not, this includes our children.
The bible says “Teach a child in the way he should go,” this definitely applies to respect. If we treat our children with respect and encourage others to do the same our children learn that their world is a safe place, and they will treat others with respect.
Sometimes as a parent we just lose it and it seems that when you are a single parent it’s hard to maintain your equilibrium when the kids are out of control. However, we must treat our children as we want them to treat others.
These toddlers who scream no and run away from you will be teenagers who stand their ground while telling you no. Then one day you will have an adult child who doesn’t respect you.
It’s easier to give in, to let them do what they want to avoid the argument. It’s less time consuming too. Our kids are worth the time it takes for the lesson.
Take the time to not only discipline your child but to make sure that she understands this is a direct consequence of her actions. Even young children can learn cause and effect. If you misbehave you will lose a privilege. Discipline should extend to kindness as well, not just behaviors. Teach a child to be kind and empathetic and you will be rewarded with a child who respects himself and others.