Last night was our biggest football game of the year here in Utah. It’s something fans look forward to all year long. It is jokingly referred to as the “Holy War” around here; BYU vs. Utah. Fans banter back and forth about who is better constantly and believe it or not it can become quite heated.
This used to be an exciting time at our house. The whole family would get together to watch the game. My entire family bleeds blue and always has (roots very strongly for BYU for those of you not familiar with the lingo). When my mother married her ex husband things had to change because he was one of those extreme Ute fans, the kind that won’t speak to you for days if they lose. So in support of her husband she kept quiet and dressed all the kids in red for every game. Her youngest son stayed red, while the others learned quickly it was easier to just keep your mouth shut and stay neutral.
Every year when football season comes around we can feel the tension rising between sides. The blue always outnumbers the red at our house and they have been known to attack each other over a simple touchdown. Feelings have been hurt and it causes a rift between the family every football season. Something that used to be a bonding experience for the family has now become quite the opposite.
It is important to teach our children the importance of being good sports whether they win or lose. There is no need to rub it in their faces if they are ahead. There is no need to pout if they’re not. It is just a game. Even if you are rooting for different teams you can still have an enjoyable night watching together. The focus needs to be bringing the family together, not tearing them apart.