I am a firm believer that we were not sent to this Earth to be miserable. That doesn’t mean that we won’t go through hard times, but it is our job to find the light through the darkness that is placed before us. I never dreamed that I would find myself in the middle of a divorce at 21 years old. I was unwillingly thrust into single parenthood and I was devastated. I was convinced that I would never feel joy again.
For a while I couldn’t pull myself out of it. It was all I could do to get out of bed every morning. I truly was miserable. One day I noticed the difference it was making on my son. I couldn’t be the mother I wanted to be because I was so consumed in the darkness of my divorce. It was then that I realized something had to change. I had to make a conscious decision that I wasn’t going to be miserable anymore. I was still sad about my situation; I still wished things were different; but I wanted to feel joy again because I was tired of being miserable. I had to reach down inside myself and find the strength to make it through each day. I had to be brave and face this new adventure head on. I had to look for the blessings in my life, even though they were a little harder to see at the time. I had to commit myself to finding joy again.
We are sent here to learn from the trials placed before us. We were meant to find joy in this life, to seek it when it seems all is lost. The pain I felt after my divorce was so intense it could not be described in words. It is impossible to understand without having experienced it, but had I not known a pain so deep I would never have been able to feel the joy I have now. I had to experience pain in order to experience joy. You cannot understand one without the other. So though you may be suffering now, remember that with that suffering will come a joy just as deep as the pain you feel now. We are meant to be happy; it is up to you to find the joy in the journey.