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The Answer Should Never Be I Don’t Know

If that’s the answer, what’s the question? The question, in this case, should be why are we still married? The answer should never be I don’t know. Now I can give you any number of reasons why you might still be married – but the only one who can answer that question is you.

Why Am I Still Married?

It may sound hokey, it may sound corny – but I made a vow and a commitment and even during the hardest of times, I haven’t forgotten this. The idea of getting a divorce because we were angry at each other and frustrated is too easy. Now don’t get me wrong, when there is emotional, mental or physical abuse – get out – don’t stay in that kind of a relationship because abuse is not just a communication problem – it’s deeper and it’s not a problem you can solve for the abuser.

But let’s get back to the question and the answer.

I Know

So what do I know about being married? What do I know about why I am still married? Being married is about more than just saying I do – it’s about the history we share, the friendship we share and the life we share. Here are just a few of the reasons why I am still married:

  • I can’t imagine not being with my husband, we had a life together even before we got married and before we said I do – I couldn’t imagine getting up in the morning and not seeing him or talking to him
  • When I’m sad, he’s the first person I want to talk to about it, I want to share my feelings, I want his input, I want his comfort and I want his perspective
  • When I’m happy or I’ve accomplished something, he’s the first person I want to talk to and share the good news with – I want to hear the pride or the joy or all of the above in his voice
  • I love that he gets excited for me even when it’s not something he’s interested in
  • I love our life together, the good and the bad, because he helps me find a balance in my world and whether it’s me helping him or him helping me or the two of us working together to help someone else – we’re a team and I love that
  • He’s my family, in him I found joy, acceptance, love and respect

Those are just some of the reasons I am still married. Tell me, why are you still married?

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About Heather Long

Heather Long is 35 years old and currently lives in Wylie, Texas. She has been a freelance writer for six years. Her husband and she met while working together at America Online over ten years ago. They have a beautiful daughter who just turned five years old. She is learning to read and preparing for kindergarten in the fall. An author of more than 300 articles and 500+ web copy pieces, Heather has also written three books as a ghostwriter. Empty Canoe Publishing accepted a novel of her own. A former horse breeder, Heather used to get most of her exercise outside. In late 2004, early 2005 Heather started studying fitness full time in order to get herself back into shape. Heather worked with a personal trainer for six months and works out regularly. She enjoys shaking up her routine and checking out new exercises. Her current favorites are the treadmill (she walks up to 90 minutes daily) and doing yoga for stretching. She also performs strength training two to three times a week. Her goals include performing in a marathon such as the Walk for Breast Cancer Awareness or Team in Training for Lymphoma research. She enjoys sharing her knowledge and experience through the fitness and marriage blogs.