Being a mother is something that I love. However, it isn’t something I always knew would happen. I spent my teenage years swearing I would never have kids. It wasn’t until I was in my late twenties that I even considered motherhood.
Since I never really imagined being a mother, I certainly didn’t imagine being a single mother. There are a lot of challenges that motherhood presents. Add in being single and not having the support of the father to the mix and it becomes more difficult.
There is no doubt that motherhood is very rewarding. Being a single mother is rewarding as well. Every accomplishment is something I know I did alone. I am proud of the accomplishments that I’ve made with my son.
The challenges I face are probably the same as faced by a lot of single parents. Many of them are financial. Time management is another big challenge. Smaller challenges come with babysitting needs and wishing for an extra pair of hands.
The biggest challenge may be the inability of a single mom to fill the role of a dad or for a single father to fill the role of a mom. Children do need things from each parent. I am very fortunate that my son has my father in his life. He thinks his Granddaddy is the greatest and he has a male role model that is a constant in his life.
I suppose I chose to add challenges for myself by being a work-at-home mom in addition to being a single mom. Again, I’m blessed with a helpful family because this wouldn’t otherwise be possible. It is a strain and it is stressful. Even with help, money is tight.
When I was working, I was having trouble managing babysitting and my work schedule. When I looked at the pros and cons of working outside of my home, I found out that when I subtracted all of my expenses, my net income was about the same as what I could make from home. That made the decision to work from home a clear choice.
I could definitely use some extra help at times, but most of those times my family steps in. I can’t imagine being a single, work-at-home mom without a helpful and supportive family. For those of you who are doing it, I commend you.
What challenges are you currently facing as a single parent?
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