The “Counselor / Guiding” personality type, or the INFJ personality type, describes a person who is an Introvert (I), who perceives the world through their Intuition (N), who relies on their Feelings (F) about the people and circumstances involved in a given situation as a basis for decision making, and who views the world from the vantage point of Judgement (J).
If you are an introvert, it means that you are more comfortable focusing on your own inner thoughts and ideas than you are with interacting with a room full of people, especially if you do not know those people very well. You like to use your intuition to give you information that goes beyond the facts of a given situation. You like to use your feelings about the people and the circumstances involved in a situation as a guide for your decision making process. You view the outside world from the viewpoint of your own structure of personal beliefs, ideals, and values.
The parenting style of a person with an INFJ personality is one that is very family focused. You feel that parenting is your profession, and you approach it very seriously, and with your very best effort. You interact with your children in a very sensitive way, encouraging each child to develop his or her own, unique, potential. You enjoy having free and open conversations with your children and this includes when they come to you with a problem. You experience personal growth as a result of your experiences in parenting your children.
A child who grows up with an INFJ parent develops a very strong sense of his or her own personal identity. This child grew up learning how to express his thoughts and feelings in an open and honest way, that encourages deep and meaningful conversations. He learns to be respectful of other people’s ideas and opinions, even when the do not exactly match his own. He understands that each person is unique, with their own set of skills and talents, and he sees this as a positive thing. He learns from the example of the INFJ parent that life experiences are a valuable tool for personal growth, and that parenting is of special importance, and something to be taken seriously.
If your child has an INFJ personality, he will want to choose a career where the work itself requires an ongoing learning experience. He will want his employment to be something that provides him with experiences that promote his own, personal growth, as well as a way to become a better employee. If the job requires him to continue taking classes, this is seen as a positive experience. He will put his best effort into the work he does, and may include his profession as part of his personal identity. He develops personal relationships with his coworkers, and values those relationships. As an adult, a person with an INFJ personality will become a Psychologist, a Counselor who advises other people about how to further their own careers, or as a Teacher. As a teacher, he is likely to gravitate towards Special Education.