Following on from Mary Ann’s blog, it is especially important to remember at Christmas when there are Christmas parties happening and lots of events where people have at times had a few drinks. At such times sometimes fuelled by alcohol the inhibitions can tend to relax a little. And so we may need to be a little more vigilant about keeping that hedge up.
We have some friends with whom we are on a hugs and kisses, hello and goodbye basis. Since I believe a kiss is a sensual thing, Outside of my husband and adult children no one else gets a kiss on the lips. I automatically turn my face away as does he if anyone attempts to kiss him on the lips. It is kisses on the cheek only. It’s just one of those little hedges Mick and I have built around our marriage.
At the church we now belong to, is common for the husband and wife couple welcoming at the door to greet other members with a hug and a kiss. That was something that was unusual to me. Now I rather like it. But again it is a kiss on the cheek.
The other thing is a kiss only ever happens when we are all together. I wouldn’t dream of I being in a room away from others and kissing another man, even on the cheek, just as Mick wouldn’t dream of doing that with another woman. I agree with May Ann that we need to be careful and wise in the way we deal with people.
Why do we need to be careful? Just look and listen to those around you. How many marriages have got into trouble because the man or woman has had an affair with someone who was a close friend? As the song says ‘it started with a kiss.’
Far better to be overcautious than to leave ourselves wide open to something which could be misinterpreted and send the wrong signal and get us into trouble.
Our marriage relationship is one of the most important relationships we have, we need to ensure we do all we can to protect it.
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