The emotionally intelligent husband is a step up on the husband who has not increased his own emotional intelligence. What defines an emotionally intelligent husband is one who has figured out a secret to marriage that other husbands haven’t yet. That little secret is actually pretty elementary, but can actually be pretty hard.
The emotionally intelligent husband has learned to respect and honor his wife; but also knows how to convey that honor and respect. Most husbands value their spouse’s feelings; but they do not always know how to demonstrate that value and respect.
When a man’s emotional intelligence expands to include this value, he will likely make his wife and family the priority over his career. His values of success have been revised. He will not only understand the details of his wife’s world, but he will incorporate them into his own.
He will make her aware of his admiration and his respect. He will communicate the fondness and depth of his feelings by turning towards her whether it’s by keeping a constant finger on the pulse of their relationship and talking throughout the day or by expressing genuine interest at the end of the day for what her experiences have been.
This emotional intelligence will not only benefit the marriage, but also his abilities as a father. He will accept her opinions, her ideas and he will be able to discuss his own with her. He will be familiar with what is happening in the lives of his wife and his children. He will not be the father who doesn’t know what’s going on or who has to be prodded to remember that there is something important going on in his children’s lives.
The emotionally intelligent husband is plugged into his wife’s world and she is plugged into his. They will form a tight unit of emotional connections that will help them when they are confronted by problems and lift them higher when they have success.
He will know his children’s friends, he will know his wife’s friends, he will have time for his family and his happiness with his family will help to work, create and succeed in his own personal challenges and desires. It’s a really happy ending when a man and wife have a high emotional intelligence and share the benefits of it together.