How often when someone had announced their impending marriage or engagement have you heard comments like: ‘That’s the end of your freedom now?’ Or, ‘another one bites the dust’. Or ‘now you’re hooked. There’s no escape.’
A young married woman recently said to me how sick and tired she was of hearing such comments, not only from friends but also from older people. Why do people feel the need to make these negative comments about marriage? With attitudes like this, no wonder our marriages are in trouble. Instead of making negative comments we need to help young people and older couples as well, supporting them in their marriages and offering encouragement.
Recently when this same young woman’s husband went to get a drink for her because she wasn’t feeling well, one of his mates said ‘she’s got you well trained. You’re under the thumb now.’
‘I’m doing it because I love her,’ the young man replied.
He knew if the situation was reversed, she would have happily done the same for him and had done at other times.
At the same time we need to look at our own marriages and see how we can improve them. Even if you have a good lasting marriage there is always ways they can be improved. Just as businesses seek to improve their services, products and communication with customers, so we can always find ways to make our marriages better.
One of those most effective ways is though communication. Communication with our spouse. Let’s concentrate on making our spouse feel like they are the most important person in our lives, because that’s what they should be. Let them know that. –often. Show it in the little things you do for them.
Let’s watch what we say to others too about marriage. Let’s; get back to the basics of what marriage is about and present a positive view to others.
A young single man made this observation recently that ‘men are like children. They needed to be encouraged often.’ So find the good things your spouse does and encourage them and praise them. It works with children. It works with adults too, whether they are men or woman. Try lot of praise and encouragement in your marriage starting from today.
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