If you want to spice up a first date, take a little time to think it through. A three-hour date with a movie that lasts two and half-hours is not a good way to get acquainted.
Then again, you don’t want to be stuck staring at each other without a topic of conversation.
A daytime meeting takes the heat off and if you throw in lunch or coffee, it can definitely help alleviate the pressure that a first date always seems accompanied by. Always thank your date, because manners are forever in style. Be positive throughout the date, nothing turns someone off like a hotbed of negativity.
Remember that people associate a lot of negative talk with negativity so even though you may be talking about someone else – you don’t want your date to go home with the thought that all you do is complain. Accentuate the positive and eliminate the negative.
Talk about things that you both have in common, the best away to find out what those things are – is to explore those areas with your date. If this is the first time date – this is the first time you get to make a really good impression. This is your first chance to really score the high mark and your first chance to really screw up.
Another thing to remember is that your first date isn’t a counseling session. Avoid discussion of what happened in your last relationship and or why you aren’t in it anymore. Leave off any mistakes you’ve made or the who’s, what’s and when’s of previous relations. Your first date is about you and the person you are out with. If you can’t come up with anything to discuss with them that involves them – then maybe you shouldn’t be out with them in the first place.
Take a chance on your first date, enjoy it – relax and discuss how you met – what you were doing and look for those common ground ideas. Also, remember – you’re already ON the date, so the hardest part of a first date is over. Someone asked for it and someone else accepted!
What was your most memorable first date?
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