Your marriage is the foundation of your family. At the leadership training meeting on Saturday, I was impressed with the discussion that the group had on marriage. It is important to remember that when we get married that we are entering covenant with our spouse and with God. It is important to uphold this covenant. To really do this we need to each be working on improving our relationship with our spouse.
The most important thing we can do is to stop being selfish in the marriage relationship. Honestly most fights in a marriage are the direct result of someone being selfish in some manner. If you feel resentment towards your spouse or feel that you are being treated unfairly, try praying about it and then doing something nice for your spouse. You may be able to turn the situation around.
It is also important to bring the spirit into the home together. One comment that stuck out to me at the training meeting is that the husband and wife should work together as a team to raise the children. This means planning together, agreeing on punishments, and just helping each other with the kids. Focusing on these common purposes will help you to stay on the same path together.
Finally you need to continue to court each other. Dating is an essential part of this, but there are other ways as well. If you find that you are spending your evenings alone—he’s watching the game or surfing the Internet, while you are reading or cleaning the house—then you need to spend more time together. You can find ways to reconnect with each other by talking, leaving notes for each other or other fun things. Once again you may find that a little effort on your part will do a lot to change this situation.
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