Don’t want your prospective bride to say ‘no’? Here are some tips to help you propose and help her not say ‘I don’t.’ The following are just suggestions, it’s important to recognize what makes your potential spouse feel romantic, loved and cherished.
Marriage Proposal Don’ts:
- Not in Public
- Rings in Food is Not Romantic
- Billboards and Flashboards Do Not Make Good Proposals
- No Family Audiences
- Simple is Better
- Don’t Propose Too Early
- Don’t Be Disheartened if She doesn’t Say Yes Immediately
Most brides, including myself, would prefer that their proposal happens not in public. Most movies glorify the idea that a wedding proposal can take place in front of thousands of people, but many brides prefer it to be intimate and personal. It’s a magical moment when a couple decides to spend the rest of their lives together, that moment, even more than the actual ceremony, is deeply private. So unless you’re positive that your bride wants a splashy proposal, avoid it.
Rings in food is not romantic as the movies make it out to be. It’s a tired thought that comes in every soap opera and large romantic film. There are no points for creativity and there’s always a chance the bride could accidentally swallow the ring or worse, choke on it. This is not the way to lay groundwork for a marriage.
Billboards and flashboards do not make good proposals because they are usually at large, chaotic events. Large sporting events and concerts are not about romance, reflection or even close personal relations. There should be no family audiences for a proposal because it adds stress to both of them. It cannot be stressed enough that a proposal of marriage should be between two people.
Don’t be complicated, simple is better. That doesn’t mean you can’t be creative, but focus on why you are proposing. If you’re worrying about the horse and carriage making it to the candlelit dinner on time, you’re not focused on the right thing.
Finally, don’t propose too early because impetuous decisions may seem sweepingly romantic, but they can lead to regrets. Also don’t be disheartened if he or she doesn’t say yes immediately because sometimes the right decisions take time and sometimes you both need to talk about it. If he or she takes the time to consider the proposal, chances are when they say yes – they will mean it.