We have had total strangers come up to us and ask us why our middle son does not look like us. Sometimes we just walk away but I will admit I did have a little fun with it sometimes. If my children were not within ear shot I would come up with different replies for these nosey people. Some of the better replies I have come up with range from “I know he does not look like us but the hospital insist we took the correct baby home” or “ I know my husband looks like he is Caucasian but I guess he is not”. I know smart comments like this are not the right way to reply, but whose business is it if my children don’t look like me?
In the world today there are so many families with mixed races and ethnicities how much nerve or stupidity must a person have in order for them to think that it is ok to ask a stranger why their child does not look like them. How would they feel if my reply was “He is my child who was conceived during a rape?” I would never say that but honestly I got tired of saying we adopted him and his two white siblings. It is no one’s business where our kids came from, whether they are adopted, from a different dad or if I am raising my husband’s love child. My husband has been asked in the past how he can love another man’s child. When he asked what they meant the said that my oldest and youngest is definitely his child but the middle one must be from another man, and how could he love that child who came from an affair?
These people need to realize that families come in every different kind of packaging. Maybe if advertisers start having commercials with multi race families it would make it easier for people to accept it without questions.