When you let go of old grudges or hurts and move on, you not only free yourself up to look forward positively, but you may actually help your health. It is the benefit of healing.
Holding on to negativity can really drain you. It can affect you physically, mentally and spiritually, and may even cause real physical pain and anxiety. The stress that you suffer can also lead to more serious problems, from hair loss to high blood pressure.
Therefore, it is really important to free yourself and learn to let go. The following advice may be able to help.
Separate It Out
Sometimes we just need to separate a hurtful act from the person who hurt us. Bad deeds don’t always equal bad people. We are all human and can make mistakes, so while your friend may have been wrong to scare your secret with someone else, most likely she isn’t a bad person. She probably just didn’t think before she spilled. And while she should regret what happened, that doesn’t necessarily mean that she did it with vengeance or will do it again.
In case of someone you think is a bad person, a really bad person who has hurt you numerous times, the best thing to do is to forgive and perhaps keep that person out of your life. Holding on to the hurt is just going to hurt you.
Let Go What You Can’t Control
There are just some things that we can’t change. It may be a fact that you have been hurt, but where you go from there is up to you. You might not be able to have prevented the negative act from happening, but you can control how you feel about it and what you do next.
You can choose to feel bitter and resentful for a long time, or you can choose to put it behind you and be positive. Learn from the issue, such as not confiding in that friend, but realize you couldn’t have controlled whether she betrayed your trust or not.