Did you know that there is power in touch? According to some mental health experts’ touch can alleviate tension, anxiety and other psychological problems. Some believe that touch can even bring about physical healing.
I remember how it felt when I stopped breastfeeding my youngest son. I knew he was going to be our last child and the thought of not having that special bonding experience anymore really bothered me. But I also knew that I would get to enjoy closeness in other ways.
When my children were younger I enjoyed those times they would jump into my bed and cuddle up. Or those moments on the couch when I would read them a story as they snuggled in close. Those are precious moments in time that I really treasure.
Now that my children are older we don’t snuggle or cuddle. But touch is still important. Teenagers not only need the power of touch, they crave it. Yes, even when they act like they don’t or they move away from your touch.
Sadly, sometimes we are afraid to touch our teenagers because we fear the stigma that may be attached to the very act. Or we may think that because our children are developing, it is no longer appropriate.
Teenagers need to feel safe and secure. We provide that to them a number of ways but touch is one of them. Think about yourself. Just because you are a grownup, does it mean you don’t enjoy a hug? Of course not and the same is true for your teenager.
With my boys I will give them a sideways hug. But I have also found that they enjoy the touch of a pat on their back or ruffling up their hair. Sometimes I will put my hand on my son’s shoulder and that is enough to let him know that he is loved. With my daughter I still get hugs from her and a peck as well.
Sometimes a small touch can give them a calm assurance that everything will be okay. It can make them feel like they are cared for. Don’t be afraid to show the power of touch to your teen.
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